NewJourneyStart

My last post on here I was approaching the three week mark, I was over the withdrawal symptoms, eating more food than I ever have before but I was starting the gym. So I was taking control of my life.

Then, I did the stupid naive thing that so many people do and think I can have a drink or two to celebrate a new job. It will be fine I said to myself, a couple of drinks with friends and that will be that. But no, I've been drunk for over a week straight, I've lost my new job cos I missed my first day.

I've relapsed, hard!

What the hell do I do from here?

doggonecarl

Put down the drink. The first day of sobriety starts the same for everyone. We quit drinking.

Then find a recovery process that will support that decision to get and remain sober.

TroubledJoe

That really sucks, I'm sorry that happened to you.

What you have to do is learn from this. The next time you think a drink or two will be fine just remember what happened this time, it most definitely was not fine, and it never will be.

Good luck, stay strong.

least

In order to stay sober, you have to want to be sober more than you want to drink.

Anna

You can stop drinking today. You can distance yourself from friends/people who are drinking until you have a comfortable amount of sober time. You can come up with a plan to help you get through the early weeks. We do understand that this is really hard, but we're here for you.

AnvilheadII

I was approaching the three week mark, I was over the withdrawal symptoms, eating more food than I ever have before but I was starting the gym. So I was taking control of my life.

at a little over TWO weeks sober, feeding yourself often and getting to the gym once or twice is NOT taking CONTROL of your life. it just doesn't work that quickly.....we need time and a LOT of it to become sturdy in our sobriety, so that we do not drink EVER, NO MATTER WHAT. that takes time, consistency and practice. as long as we still see alcohol as a REWARD, we are doomed...

so you start by stopping. put the plug in the jug, don't pick up. start the detox process again.....and ramp up the type of recovery program that will see you through to a long term unbroken sobriety.

ScottFromWI

I'd suggest you stop drinking first. Did you need assistance with the last Detox?

After that i'd suggest finding a recovery plan that is a bit more comprehensive so you don't act on those feelings to "just have a couple" the next time the opportunity arises.

Sean30

Like others have said, you just new to stop before doing anymore damage..
I'm really sorry thing have been hard, bit you just new to pull up right now and make stopping your first priority.

Sending thoughts and prayers

Thumpalumpacus

A welcome reminder that good times can be as dangerous as bad times.

Get back on the bicycle and start pedaling again. You can do it.

FLCamper

You start over immediately. The longer you wait, the harder it will be. There are other jobs out there so sober up and start looking. This was a rough road but you got through it. Learn the lesson and keep going.
So, tomorrow, I hope you'll post that you're 24 hours sober.

DayTrader

"...most alcoholics, for reasons yet obscure,
have lost the power of choice in drink. Our so-called
will power becomes practically nonexistent.
We are unable, at certain times, to bring into our consciousness
with sufficient force the memory of the suffering
and humiliation of even a week or a month ago."

Soberwolf

If you really want to be sober I'd get a plan going there are SR mods here with tons of experience to help you

Good Luck

Delilah1

I'm so sorry about the job, I hope this will help you get back on track and find a better position when you are ready.

Alegresempre

I losted two jobs when I was drinking never ever more I will let this happen again, I'm happy sober, you can do it, the other side (sobriety) is the real happiness 🌞🌟

Dee74

I'm not sure what your plan was like NJS? Does it need some beefing up?

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ans.htmlhttps:

Dropsie

I am so sorry about the job and the reason for it. I can imagine how bad you feel having been there but for other reasons.

Here is I wish someone had told me.

This is a bad moment for you I know.

But its a moment in your life.

You can take this moment and do with it as you will.

It can be a catalyst for change or not.

I know you must feel terrible, and I feel your pain, but see if you can use it to build something stronger.

You can do this -- it just got a bit harder, but also more important as you can now more clearly see the other side.

We are here to help.

SoberLife90

Sorry about the job. Next time you celebrate a job you can feel confident you won't have just two. That is definitely insane thinking considering us alcoholics rarely ever had one or two. Keep coming back here and never look back. Have you considered any AA meetings? Plenty of support there. I love the fellowship of AA.

NewJourneyStart

I've kept drinking through reading all this, been drunk for a week and a half straight now. Still no job, luckily somehow still have my girlfriend.

I'm about to go to bed, stopped drinking 15 minutes ago, my heart is beating out of my chest, sweating like crazy. My girlfriend is asleep in bed so I'm going to try and just go to sleep next to her without waking her.

See you on the other side people... hopefully!

Hevyn

NJS - I'm sorry too that you're going through this. I did the same thing before I finally was convinced that I could never touch a drop. Trying to use willpower to have one or two will never work for us. I think you learned something valuable. I'm glad you wanted to talk about it. There's no doubt you can get back your sober time and reclaim you life. We're with you.

NewJourneyStart

The thing I find the hardest is getting to sleep when I can feel my heart pounding in my chest. I'm very aware of it and it makes it so hard to relax and fall asleep