I really need help
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Join Date: Jul 2015
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I really need help
Hello everyone I joined a couple months back and posted a couple times I ended up staying sober for almost two weeks but unfortunately I fell off and I'm now at a really bad point drinking a litre of rum every other day I need to get motivated and stop this self destruction but I'm not sure if I can
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Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: California
Posts: 13,031
Hello,
I have been on and off this site as well with stretches of sobriety lasting a few weeks to a few months. The times I was able to stick with it I held myself accountable, and had a plan. I am just starting Day 12 and what has helped is using SR, Women for Sobriety, and checking in with a sober buddy who made the same commitment as me for 2016.
I have had thoughts of drinking wine on a few occasions and I thought about how I would feel the next morning. It has been nice to wake up clear headed and ready to focus on the day..
There are lots of great stiries in SR from people with several days to several weeks.
Join me in the January class. :-)
I have been on and off this site as well with stretches of sobriety lasting a few weeks to a few months. The times I was able to stick with it I held myself accountable, and had a plan. I am just starting Day 12 and what has helped is using SR, Women for Sobriety, and checking in with a sober buddy who made the same commitment as me for 2016.
I have had thoughts of drinking wine on a few occasions and I thought about how I would feel the next morning. It has been nice to wake up clear headed and ready to focus on the day..
There are lots of great stiries in SR from people with several days to several weeks.
Join me in the January class. :-)
Hears The Voice
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Unshackled
Posts: 7,901
Welcome back!
I'm sure that you can.
There are many paths to happy sober living. What's your plan?
Originally Posted by MistaT 
I need to get motivated and stop this self destruction but I'm not sure if I can
There are many paths to happy sober living. What's your plan?
Hears The Voice
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Unshackled
Posts: 7,901
Originally Posted by MistaT
It's 13:21 and I've stayed sober but I'm struggling obviously being hungover my body is wanting another drink I'm going to try and have a warm meal and sleep it off
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Join Date: Dec 2015
Location: Nova Scotia
Posts: 801
Good Morning, I found education helped me and is helping me to stay sober (just one of many tools I am using), what I mean by that is a new way of thinking, learning what others are or have gone through, there is a wealth of information here and on the net, when I have a feeling I do not understand or want to learn more about, I can ask in meetings face to face or online chat, I can talk to my GF or I decided I wanted a sponsor not only to work steps I feel are important but someone face to face, one on one that has been there ( I also google almost daily). I also find great power over my AV helping others if I can.
I think of it as rewiring a house, the old wiring just doesn't pass my code so I will rewire it right and I know exactly how to do it, in short filling my thoughts and brain with the tools to address situations that come up in my life like a normal sober person would vs going on a binge which has always made things worse for me. I think/believe it's also very important to surround ourselves with people that are supportive.
Wish you well, the journey is worth it however it takes work and as I often say success can be measure on just how bad we want sobriety.
All the best
Andrew
I think of it as rewiring a house, the old wiring just doesn't pass my code so I will rewire it right and I know exactly how to do it, in short filling my thoughts and brain with the tools to address situations that come up in my life like a normal sober person would vs going on a binge which has always made things worse for me. I think/believe it's also very important to surround ourselves with people that are supportive.
Wish you well, the journey is worth it however it takes work and as I often say success can be measure on just how bad we want sobriety.
All the best
Andrew
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Join Date: Dec 2015
Location: Syracuse, NY
Posts: 1,232
Originally Posted by MistaT
Thank you for the comments guys I need to focus on getting better, I don't think I've lasted a month without a drink since I was 15.
So just thinking about today and tonight, other than wanting to be sober, what can you do to ensure you are sober?
On my third attempt at sobriety after decades of use, I am only now realizing how important it is to have that action plan.
Post back and let us know how it's going.
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Castle Pines, CO
Posts: 747
Welcome!
As others have said, having a plan and support structure are priority #1 in my opinion. I use SR, therapy, medication, meditation, prayer, sobriety apps, motivational videos, music, and support from friends and family. I also have made sure to make my issue public. I have informed my job, family, and friends of my desire and intention to never pick up another drink. This hold me even more accountable. I wish you luck and just don't drink today.
As others have said, having a plan and support structure are priority #1 in my opinion. I use SR, therapy, medication, meditation, prayer, sobriety apps, motivational videos, music, and support from friends and family. I also have made sure to make my issue public. I have informed my job, family, and friends of my desire and intention to never pick up another drink. This hold me even more accountable. I wish you luck and just don't drink today.
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Join Date: Aug 2014
Posts: 166
Anyone can do it, it is just bloody hard. Definitely keep posting here, really get involved, a problem shared and all that. I am only on day 11 this time around and already I am trying to convince myself to go back to drinking, I just can't believe how hard I try to convince myself it will be okay to drink again, pure bullsh*t self justification only an addict possesses.
This may be awful advice but I can see the hard kick you're getting from the rum being the first thing to tackle. Is there any merit to weening yourself off it by replacing some of the drink with a lower percentage beer? That is an open question to the more experienced here. I am not advising that is what you do but instinctively it is probably how I would go about things.
This may be awful advice but I can see the hard kick you're getting from the rum being the first thing to tackle. Is there any merit to weening yourself off it by replacing some of the drink with a lower percentage beer? That is an open question to the more experienced here. I am not advising that is what you do but instinctively it is probably how I would go about things.
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