Looking for a sober ROLE MODEL
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Join Date: Dec 2015
Posts: 76
Looking for a sober ROLE MODEL
Hi everyone.
Can you guys tell me one (or more) random and awesome fact about you that you discovered in sobriety? Bodes not have to be ABOUT sobriety or getting sober - but who are YOU?
What are some things you really like about yourself? What do other people say they like about you?
What makes you feel important? What do you love? Is it a food, an animal, tell me about you! Be as specific as you can and don't hesitate to BRAG! Seriously!
I need some positive role models!
Thanks!
Can you guys tell me one (or more) random and awesome fact about you that you discovered in sobriety? Bodes not have to be ABOUT sobriety or getting sober - but who are YOU?
What are some things you really like about yourself? What do other people say they like about you?
What makes you feel important? What do you love? Is it a food, an animal, tell me about you! Be as specific as you can and don't hesitate to BRAG! Seriously!
I need some positive role models!
Thanks!
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Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: Utah
Posts: 214
My sponsor told me the other day he seen me work harder in 2 days than someone who works all week, i aint even working Im just trying to get my life together. But other than that theres not much to say. For some reason this screams to me " actions speak louder than words"? Some sober people can talk your ear off. like my sponsor. Ha. Goodluck. im sure you will find a sober role model.
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Join Date: Dec 2015
Location: Nova Scotia
Posts: 801
The #1 me is I can think straight as I am love being able to do the things I love to do but can't when drinking
Can I have two #1's? My girlfriend gave me a second chance, you see she doesn't drink as she doesn't like the taste and I never told her I was an alcoholic, didn't see it as a problem until she went away in Nov. I had stopped following my plan and the AV took control, yes I was weak, long story short it was five tough weeks, I think the world of her and as our interests are the same, outdoor activities with our dogs, it's a side bonus that she is a Dr in mental health, no experience in the area I am getting help with but has and is a tremendous support and we are both full of love for each other and life. I have never in my life been so happy, and yes the relapse took everything this time including a dream career.
I could go on but those are the two top things sobriety has given back to me.
And yes complete control over my AV as I am following my plan this time as it works, I did add to it but I made a promise to myself I would never take my eye off the goal and I do not break promises, well unless back in the days when I was drinking, it got so bad that I didn't know if I was lying or telling the truth.
Best wishes
Andrew
Can I have two #1's? My girlfriend gave me a second chance, you see she doesn't drink as she doesn't like the taste and I never told her I was an alcoholic, didn't see it as a problem until she went away in Nov. I had stopped following my plan and the AV took control, yes I was weak, long story short it was five tough weeks, I think the world of her and as our interests are the same, outdoor activities with our dogs, it's a side bonus that she is a Dr in mental health, no experience in the area I am getting help with but has and is a tremendous support and we are both full of love for each other and life. I have never in my life been so happy, and yes the relapse took everything this time including a dream career.
I could go on but those are the two top things sobriety has given back to me.
And yes complete control over my AV as I am following my plan this time as it works, I did add to it but I made a promise to myself I would never take my eye off the goal and I do not break promises, well unless back in the days when I was drinking, it got so bad that I didn't know if I was lying or telling the truth.
Best wishes
Andrew
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Hi sourbaby,
Perhaps you can find something of interest in these threads:
Community Poll - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Perhaps you can find something of interest in these threads:
Community Poll - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
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Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Grand Rapids MI
Posts: 6,435
Originally Posted by Dee74 
Like I just said to someone else there's a forum full of inspiring people here, sourbaby.
Unfortunately humility prevents me telling you about what makes me awesome lol
D
Unfortunately humility prevents me telling you about what makes me awesome lol
D
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Join Date: Apr 2015
Posts: 166
I feel like I am a 100% of the father and husband I can be instead of whatever pathetic % I was at while using. I know there are lots of others but that one is the most important to me. My self respect has improved in a comparable fashion.
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,235
Im filled with this quiet confidence within
myself, still learning about myself as I
continue on my recovery life Im traveling
on.
Im a good person, even tho as a child, one
of 4 siblings, singled out by a sick parent
who unleashed her Dr. Jeckle/Mr. Hyde
personality on me, verbally, physically,
emotionally abused.
I was sent out into the world as this
little child to look different from others
and because of that I was ridiculed and
laughed by classmates.
I oftened looked in the mirror tears
streaming down my little face seeing
ugly and yet because of my Catholic
upbringing, I knew I was a little child
of God preventing me from doing something
horrible to myself.
As I grew up I was always self absorbed,
always wondering what people thought
of me. At about 18 my addiction to alcohol
gave me some self confidence and this
power to retrieve stuff I missed as a child.
Over time as I continued to be sick
in my addiction, I married and had
2 beautiful children, none with addiction,
and was the best mom and wife I
could possibly be rearing my babies
with as much love and care as I
could possibly be to them.
Today they are awesome adults, no
addiction living awesome lives. An
awesome gift from Above.
We stayed married for 25 yrs and
during that time, family intervened
on me 25 yrs ago and remained sober
thru many changes.
We are both remarried.
7 yrs coming up for my now husband
and I living a happy, healthy, honest
sober life.
I still have a quiet confidence within
myself, not perfect by no means. We
all go thru our ups and downs in life
because our bodies change, we get
older and such.
At 50 i began getting many beautiful
tasteful tattoos, flowers, birds, butterflies,
and seem to blend in when im at the
flower nurseries as customers comment
on how pretty they are.
I don't see many women my age, 57,
with many tattoos like i have, and yet,
i don't regret any of them. In some way
i like being different.
Im very much a lady who loves wearing
floral long dresses like the Southern
ladies often wore in the past. I love to
be fashionable, yet not to much because
I am always in my beautiful gardens tending
to them and loving all their pretty colorful
blooms they give us to enjoy and admire.
Im simple, to myself, do love our little
outings to the grocery store and Garden
centers seeing our regular clerks that
are happy to see us together.
And when my husband goes without me,
they ask where his lovely wife is, which
makes me smile.
We also love taking trips to Bike week
in Daytona and Sturgis each yr. We gear
up and im riding happy and free as a
passenger behind my Harley Man.
Living in recovery has helped me
and continues to help me to be the
best person I can possibly be using
the knowledge and tools taught to
me 25 yrs ago when i entered recovery.
It's an awesome life and look forward
to see what else is around the corner
that my HP has in store for me.
What a trip to take and enjoy each day
I remain sober.
myself, still learning about myself as I
continue on my recovery life Im traveling
on.
Im a good person, even tho as a child, one
of 4 siblings, singled out by a sick parent
who unleashed her Dr. Jeckle/Mr. Hyde
personality on me, verbally, physically,
emotionally abused.
I was sent out into the world as this
little child to look different from others
and because of that I was ridiculed and
laughed by classmates.
I oftened looked in the mirror tears
streaming down my little face seeing
ugly and yet because of my Catholic
upbringing, I knew I was a little child
of God preventing me from doing something
horrible to myself.
As I grew up I was always self absorbed,
always wondering what people thought
of me. At about 18 my addiction to alcohol
gave me some self confidence and this
power to retrieve stuff I missed as a child.
Over time as I continued to be sick
in my addiction, I married and had
2 beautiful children, none with addiction,
and was the best mom and wife I
could possibly be rearing my babies
with as much love and care as I
could possibly be to them.
Today they are awesome adults, no
addiction living awesome lives. An
awesome gift from Above.
We stayed married for 25 yrs and
during that time, family intervened
on me 25 yrs ago and remained sober
thru many changes.
We are both remarried.
7 yrs coming up for my now husband
and I living a happy, healthy, honest
sober life.
I still have a quiet confidence within
myself, not perfect by no means. We
all go thru our ups and downs in life
because our bodies change, we get
older and such.
At 50 i began getting many beautiful
tasteful tattoos, flowers, birds, butterflies,
and seem to blend in when im at the
flower nurseries as customers comment
on how pretty they are.
I don't see many women my age, 57,
with many tattoos like i have, and yet,
i don't regret any of them. In some way
i like being different.
Im very much a lady who loves wearing
floral long dresses like the Southern
ladies often wore in the past. I love to
be fashionable, yet not to much because
I am always in my beautiful gardens tending
to them and loving all their pretty colorful
blooms they give us to enjoy and admire.
Im simple, to myself, do love our little
outings to the grocery store and Garden
centers seeing our regular clerks that
are happy to see us together.
And when my husband goes without me,
they ask where his lovely wife is, which
makes me smile.
We also love taking trips to Bike week
in Daytona and Sturgis each yr. We gear
up and im riding happy and free as a
passenger behind my Harley Man.
Living in recovery has helped me
and continues to help me to be the
best person I can possibly be using
the knowledge and tools taught to
me 25 yrs ago when i entered recovery.
It's an awesome life and look forward
to see what else is around the corner
that my HP has in store for me.
What a trip to take and enjoy each day
I remain sober.
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Join Date: Apr 2015
Location: US
Posts: 544
The most awesome fact I know about myself is that I'm a drunk, and I have the power to change that everyday in sobriety. So tomorrow, I get to wake up and chose again how I want to live free from the effects of alcohol on my mind, body and spirit.
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Join Date: May 2013
Location: US East Coast
Posts: 1,972
I discovered I have the energy in sobriety to spend time both before and after work playing with my two awesome cats!
Before, I would have been too hungover in the morning and too busy drinking my wine after work.
Before, I would have been too hungover in the morning and too busy drinking my wine after work.
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Join Date: Apr 2014
Location: UK
Posts: 6,902
SB - recovery isn't about creating a new / different you. It's about discovering the real you underneath the crap you picked up in the junkyard of life.
Like I heard someone say: lots of people think we are bad people learning to be good. But actually it's a case of removing our character defects so that we get to see the good that was always there. We started out like shiny magnets, that have been dragged through the junkyard of life, picking up bits of crap all over the place. As we go through the steps we get to pick off those bits of junk, and slowly start to catch a glimpse of what is underneath - and as we catch sight of these, our hope and conviction is strengthened and we continue that process.
We don't stop being magnets, and it's in our nature to pick up more crap, but we start to see it for the junk it is and learn to drop those things quickly rather than hold onto them.
When I say crap, I'm talking about resentments; harms; character defects - all of which we don't even realise how much we're clinging onto. We act like they're our treasures, instead of dog turds wrapped in gold paper, which they are.
Anyway - I digress. Personally, I don't think you need a role model. You just need to be willing to start losing your junk, so you can see the wonderful person that's already underneath. You have lots of character assets yourself, but the junk just distracts you from noticing them (for now anyway).
Like I heard someone say: lots of people think we are bad people learning to be good. But actually it's a case of removing our character defects so that we get to see the good that was always there. We started out like shiny magnets, that have been dragged through the junkyard of life, picking up bits of crap all over the place. As we go through the steps we get to pick off those bits of junk, and slowly start to catch a glimpse of what is underneath - and as we catch sight of these, our hope and conviction is strengthened and we continue that process.
We don't stop being magnets, and it's in our nature to pick up more crap, but we start to see it for the junk it is and learn to drop those things quickly rather than hold onto them.
When I say crap, I'm talking about resentments; harms; character defects - all of which we don't even realise how much we're clinging onto. We act like they're our treasures, instead of dog turds wrapped in gold paper, which they are.
Anyway - I digress. Personally, I don't think you need a role model. You just need to be willing to start losing your junk, so you can see the wonderful person that's already underneath. You have lots of character assets yourself, but the junk just distracts you from noticing them (for now anyway).
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