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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,416
Try not to panic - you don;t need to solve anything tonight.
Be with and focus on your child - they need their mom.
The AV will be very persuasive but forgetting tonight is not any good to you - you'll remember again tomorrow morning and have the added shame and guilt from drinking.
D
Be with and focus on your child - they need their mom.
The AV will be very persuasive but forgetting tonight is not any good to you - you'll remember again tomorrow morning and have the added shame and guilt from drinking.
D
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Join Date: Dec 2015
Location: Nova Scotia
Posts: 801
I really feel for you, phone a close friend and vent, unfortunately I know what you are going through, was married 24 years 11 months, wasn't perfect but she had joined this church group, ended up being a cult, I arrive from a business trip to be greeted at the door, our kids were in the background, she sat us down and said she had been sleeping with one of the pastors for 8 months and wanted a divorce, I didn't know what to say, everything she said after that did not register. To this day I find it strange I never touched a drop for almost two years, I had full custody.
Except for my current partner I haven't had the best loyalty from relationships, a little over a year ago I was dating someone, we were in love yet her neighbor calls me crying one Friday evening saying the nights I wasn't there she(my girlfriend) had other men over for the night, I was WTF???? I asked her about it and she said yes when I drink too much that does happen.....haven't talked to her since.
Tough world out there but I do know booze has never solved a problem for me yet or anyone else I have spoken to. I do wish you the very best as what you are going through just isn't fair.
Except for my current partner I haven't had the best loyalty from relationships, a little over a year ago I was dating someone, we were in love yet her neighbor calls me crying one Friday evening saying the nights I wasn't there she(my girlfriend) had other men over for the night, I was WTF???? I asked her about it and she said yes when I drink too much that does happen.....haven't talked to her since.
Tough world out there but I do know booze has never solved a problem for me yet or anyone else I have spoken to. I do wish you the very best as what you are going through just isn't fair.
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Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Dancing in the Light
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Kamm, I am so sorry you're going through this.
Stay strong and keep a clear head and you will find your way through things. There will be time to figure out how to get back into the work world and to manage things, but for now, just be kind to yourself and try to get some rest.
Stay strong and keep a clear head and you will find your way through things. There will be time to figure out how to get back into the work world and to manage things, but for now, just be kind to yourself and try to get some rest.
I'm sorry this is happening to you. 
Please don't drink. That will only make things worse. 
You can have reasons, or you can have results, but you can't have both.
Join Date: Dec 2015
Location: Syracuse, NY
Posts: 1,232
I'm so sorry. I've been through this, too.
I let my loser drive me to drink. Don't give yours that power. Whatever he has taken, draw the line and don't let him take any more.
A bright future is ahead if you take care of yourself first. Don't let this cause you to drink. If you get through this without drinking, what can threaten you?
This is like the ninth inning. Play to win. This weak-willed person who could not control his lizard brain is nothing compared to you. He will fall again and again. But you're strong, and you will move up to even higher levels without him.
Don't drink.
I let my loser drive me to drink. Don't give yours that power. Whatever he has taken, draw the line and don't let him take any more.
A bright future is ahead if you take care of yourself first. Don't let this cause you to drink. If you get through this without drinking, what can threaten you?
This is like the ninth inning. Play to win. This weak-willed person who could not control his lizard brain is nothing compared to you. He will fall again and again. But you're strong, and you will move up to even higher levels without him.
Don't drink.
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Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Canada
Posts: 4,580
What a painful hit you just took! Oh man...I'm so sorry. I certainly understand the urge to annhilate yourself with alcohol...but what will that do? Absolutely nothing. You will come to...and the upset will still be there with a self flaggelating hangover to boot!
You DO need to do something though. Call a friend as suggested. BREATHE IN AND BREATHE OUT....just keep taking sober breaths. Keep posting and reading here. Ride this out...build the muscle.
Don't let the arseh*ole take your sobriety too! DON'T
You DO need to do something though. Call a friend as suggested. BREATHE IN AND BREATHE OUT....just keep taking sober breaths. Keep posting and reading here. Ride this out...build the muscle.
Don't let the arseh*ole take your sobriety too! DON'T
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Upstate New York
Posts: 51,554
Kamm - I'm sorry for the pain you're feeling. We understand being tempted, but instead of calming you it'll only make things more awful. Your anxiety will increase. Please hold on to your precious sobriety. I'm glad you started this thread & wanted to talk about what's going on - we want to help.
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Join Date: Sep 2015
Posts: 204
I'm so sorry to hear this. You don't deserve this. Please don't drink, drinking won't make you forget drinking will only amplify your feelings and make you more hurt and more angry.
As hard as it is now as dark as this moment seems you will get through it. We always do.
The best thing you can do is to stay sober and live an amazing sober life without him, Show him you are better without him,
know it's hard and it will take time but you can do it I believe in you.
As hard as it is now as dark as this moment seems you will get through it. We always do.
The best thing you can do is to stay sober and live an amazing sober life without him, Show him you are better without him,
know it's hard and it will take time but you can do it I believe in you.
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Join Date: Oct 2014
Location: wisconsin
Posts: 189
first hugs. and ditto everything up above. Please don't drink, you are going through some serious pain and drinking will only make it worse. Who knows what could happen? You can now rebuild your life stronger than ever. You are a tiger.
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