Husband exploded
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Husband exploded
well, my daughter is not speaking to me - now my husband just lost it verbally on me. Reminding me how horrible my drinking has been and how can I not stop at one. Just listened. 2 weeks sober, gonna hang in there - I don't blame him. Just had to vent. Thank you for listening!
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Congrats!!!! I have been in your place too many times. I am only on my 3rd day, but reading about you and the others on here give me great hope and motivation. You are not alone in your struggles.
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The fact that you're two weeks sober and your family is behaving this way makes me wonder: Are they angry that you're NOT drinking? I got that when I quit. People take offense...
Good luck with your family, either way. The longer you're sober the better it's likely to get (unless your husband exploded because he was drunk, which is a whole other dynamic).
Ciao!
Good luck with your family, either way. The longer you're sober the better it's likely to get (unless your husband exploded because he was drunk, which is a whole other dynamic).
Ciao!
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In some ways I think this is a good thing... their anger is a sign that they're starting to process everything that's happened... and also that they recognize that now you're sober and present enough to be worth telling about their feelings.
Sorry, though. I'm sure it isn't easy. Hang in there.
Sorry, though. I'm sure it isn't easy. Hang in there.
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Originally Posted by fantail 
In some ways I think this is a good thing... their anger is a sign that they're starting to process everything that's happened... and also that they recognize that now you're sober and present enough to be worth telling about their feelings.
Sorry, though. I'm sure it isn't easy. Hang in there.
Sorry, though. I'm sure it isn't easy. Hang in there.
My husband really had some serious anger about my actions while drinking
and it came out over several months after I stopped.
It was hard, but frankly, I'd been a real ass at times while actively drinking
I didn't drink over it, and I tried to hear where he was coming from
and not react and escalate the issue.
After all, he'd swallowed a ton of crap and stood by me when I was actively drinking.
Get support and process it as best you can.
It does improve and can be really healing if you can both feel the feelings
and let it go.
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I can relate. My husband had a lot of anger over my drinking behavior. He seems to have moments of anger even now, though it might be unrelated to my past drinking. He seems to have anger issues in general.
Beautifulpines ... stay the course. Soon they will see the changes in you. It's tough right now to face their anger or disappointment. Continue to live in the present, taking each day as it comes. You are on the right path.
Beautifulpines ... stay the course. Soon they will see the changes in you. It's tough right now to face their anger or disappointment. Continue to live in the present, taking each day as it comes. You are on the right path.
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The more distance you put between your old life and your new Sober life the easier things will get, and people around you will start to believe it's a permanent positive change in your life!!
Keep pushing through, 2 weeks it fantastic!!
Keep pushing through, 2 weeks it fantastic!!
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