Day 27... need to be smacked
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Day 27... need to be smacked
I'm on day 27. Someone please remind me why considering a glass or two of wine at Christmas dinner is just my AV and a horrible idea. I'll be with my husbands family... grrr... and wine sure would make it more bearable.
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You are about to reach 30 days, you are so close! You don't want to blow that after coming this far. You'll feel worse if you drink (and for longer) than you will putting up with the family for an hour or two.
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Remember it's only one day, one meal out of 365 days, perspective is everything!!
Plus for me it was never a "glass or two" . . . the difference between the fantasy and reality was usually at least a few bottles, a week long binge and a spiral very difficult to come back from having to start back at square one.
Don't give into the fairytales, your mind can create all the illusions it wants, but play the tape forward and think how things will really end?
You can do this!!
Plus for me it was never a "glass or two" . . . the difference between the fantasy and reality was usually at least a few bottles, a week long binge and a spiral very difficult to come back from having to start back at square one.
Don't give into the fairytales, your mind can create all the illusions it wants, but play the tape forward and think how things will really end?
You can do this!!
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Hang in there and listen to your heart, not your AV. It wants you to fail, of course. You're the boss and you can do this.
Can you get away from your husband's family for a bit and go for a walk or help to cook something?
Can you get away from your husband's family for a bit and go for a walk or help to cook something?
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If you're struggling with wanting a glass or two now, while you're sober, think how much you'll be struggling with wanting another glass or two if you have that first glass or two. And once you've had that next glass or two, well, that's nearly the bottle finished so no point leaving the rest of it. And there's bound to be another bottle somewhere you could crack open, since everyone seems to be enjoying themselves. And another one to crack open once everyone has left, just to unwind of course. And another because... Well, you can't remember why you're drinking at that point, but probably don't really care any more.
You can see where I'm going with this.
It's far, far easier to say no to that first one. And you get to wake up feeling great, proud of yourself, and knowing you didn't say or do anything you regret.
Hang in there, you can definitely do this.
You can see where I'm going with this.
It's far, far easier to say no to that first one. And you get to wake up feeling great, proud of yourself, and knowing you didn't say or do anything you regret.
Hang in there, you can definitely do this.
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Originally Posted by serenitynowplz 
I'm on day 27. Someone please remind me why considering a glass or two of wine at Christmas dinner is just my AV and a horrible idea.
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families can be difficult, but wine won't make it better. Maybe take a walk instead? Maybe find some little something you can do for yourself before and during that event, instead of drinking. Some kind of moment to yourself that feels good ... can be taking a walk, bring a poem or copy of a helpful SR post in your pocket, have someone sober that you can call while you step out for a few minutes? You can do this.
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That's exactly how it would go. Thanks for all of the good feedback. I'll be reading all of this again over and over. Thank you!
Originally Posted by OpenTuning
If you're struggling with wanting a glass or two now, while you're sober, think how much you'll be struggling with wanting another glass or two if you have that first glass or two. And once you've had that next glass or two, well, that's nearly the bottle finished so no point leaving the rest of it. And there's bound to be another bottle somewhere you could crack open, since everyone seems to be enjoying themselves. And another one to crack open once everyone has left, just to unwind of course. And another because... Well, you can't remember why you're drinking at that point, but probably don't really care any more.
You can see where I'm going with this.
It's far, far easier to say no to that first one. And you get to wake up feeling great, proud of yourself, and knowing you didn't say or do anything you regret.
Hang in there, you can definitely do this.
You can see where I'm going with this.
It's far, far easier to say no to that first one. And you get to wake up feeling great, proud of yourself, and knowing you didn't say or do anything you regret.
Hang in there, you can definitely do this.
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Originally Posted by serenitynowplz
I'll be with my husbands family... grrr... and wine sure would make it more bearable.
It surely wouldn't. Think about the floodgates it would open and the thirst for more... And what comes after that. You can get through it without alcohol and be proud of yourself afterwards.
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Originally Posted by OpenTuning
If you're struggling with wanting a glass or two now, while you're sober, think how much you'll be struggling with wanting another glass or two if you have that first glass or two. And once you've had that next glass or two, well, that's nearly the bottle finished so no point leaving the rest of it. And there's bound to be another bottle somewhere you could crack open, since everyone seems to be enjoying themselves. And another one to crack open once everyone has left, just to unwind of course. And another because... Well, you can't remember why you're drinking at that point, but probably don't really care any more.
You can see where I'm going with this.
It's far, far easier to say no to that first one. And you get to wake up feeling great, proud of yourself, and knowing you didn't say or do anything you regret.
Hang in there, you can definitely do this.
You can see where I'm going with this.
It's far, far easier to say no to that first one. And you get to wake up feeling great, proud of yourself, and knowing you didn't say or do anything you regret.
Hang in there, you can definitely do this.
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Serenity, like Carl said, it's insanity. Plus, if you're like most of us here it wouldn't be just a glass or two. For me, it would turn into an all out drink feast, arguments, not remembering Christmas Day, feeling like I lost out on quality time with my kids and family, waking up the next day feeling like crap...
It's not just about one or two drinks.
Stay strong, you're doing great!
It's not just about one or two drinks.
Stay strong, you're doing great!
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I don't know about you, but 1 beer would be a disaster for me.
I probably would only drink a beer or two until the party was over. Then later in the week when I was alone, I'd get drunk. Then it would be an on again - off again battle for sobriety until summer.
I probably would only drink a beer or two until the party was over. Then later in the week when I was alone, I'd get drunk. Then it would be an on again - off again battle for sobriety until summer.
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Originally Posted by Zebra1275
I don't know about you, but 1 beer would be a disaster for me.
I probably would only drink a beer or two until the party was over. Then later in the week when I was alone, I'd get drunk. Then it would be an on again - off again battle for sobriety until summer.
I probably would only drink a beer or two until the party was over. Then later in the week when I was alone, I'd get drunk. Then it would be an on again - off again battle for sobriety until summer.
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Originally Posted by serenitynowplz
I'm on day 27. Someone please remind me why considering a glass or two of wine at Christmas dinner is just my AV and a horrible idea. I'll be with my husbands family... grrr... and wine sure would make it more bearable.
You will see the word want in italics twice.
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