Can't...just...can't anymore...
Can't...just...can't anymore...
Close to losing jobs, completely depressive, non-functional...how do you people bounce back from this ****? Been here long time, drunk and sober, and the **** just keeps kicking me further back. How the Hell do people actually recover from this nightmare? I'm about done, man...
Some times it takes a big leap of trust in seeking support. Late summer I decided that for the sake of my sobriety and mental well-being, I was going to join a recovery center / farm. It was a crazy idea at the time. I felt I really had nowhere else to turn and was ready for anything that might work. Here I am. Alive, reasonably happy and sober. I don't 100% like where I am, but I feel I made the best choice I could with the circumstances.
Being able to accept certain circumstances too is what I've learned to do to stay sane. Somethings I can change and I work on them. Other things I feel *should* be different, and that's the kind of thinking I try hard to avoid. Things are. I may want things to be different, but have to accept that the world doesn't just conform to my will. It sounds reasonable, but I daresay many of us struggle with this. Staying sober, staying healthy is so much for me learning what things are within my power to change, what I have to let go control over, and what my role is in my own life. It's hard, so I reach out for help often. Then to repay the debt from getting help, I'm growing stronger to where I can in turn help others.
That's how I do it. It isn't perfect, but in a way it's as good as needs to be. I know many ways to make it worse.
Being able to accept certain circumstances too is what I've learned to do to stay sane. Somethings I can change and I work on them. Other things I feel *should* be different, and that's the kind of thinking I try hard to avoid. Things are. I may want things to be different, but have to accept that the world doesn't just conform to my will. It sounds reasonable, but I daresay many of us struggle with this. Staying sober, staying healthy is so much for me learning what things are within my power to change, what I have to let go control over, and what my role is in my own life. It's hard, so I reach out for help often. Then to repay the debt from getting help, I'm growing stronger to where I can in turn help others.
That's how I do it. It isn't perfect, but in a way it's as good as needs to be. I know many ways to make it worse.
What kind of support do you have, Arpeggioh? Do you attend meetings? See a therapist? I notice that your join date is April of 2006...that's close to ten years, yet you only have 59 posts. Maybe hang around here on a regular basis? I know a lot of us use SR daily to help stay sober. Getting some face-to-face support can be helpful, too.
You can do this, Arpeggioh; but, you have to want it badly enough to be willing to do anything to achieve it. You'll find a LOT of support here.
You can do this, Arpeggioh; but, you have to want it badly enough to be willing to do anything to achieve it. You'll find a LOT of support here.
Good to see you back but sorry you're still struggling arpeggioh.
It took quite a while for me to get my life sorted when I quit...I had to keep remembering I'd been drinking for 20 years - it was always going to take a little time to sort everything out.
Support's really important too - I really used SR a lot in those early days.
The first step for any kind of improvement is stop drinking.
How are you doing with that?
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It took quite a while for me to get my life sorted when I quit...I had to keep remembering I'd been drinking for 20 years - it was always going to take a little time to sort everything out.
Support's really important too - I really used SR a lot in those early days.
The first step for any kind of improvement is stop drinking.
How are you doing with that?
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Y'all have no idea how sick and tired of this crap...well, obviously you do! Oh, f@ck, I'm just done with myself!! Sorry to be a Drama Queen, but...I love this website, and the understanding I get from it...
These are two pretty awesome links to get anyone started:
https://store.samhsa.gov/shin/conten...0/SMA-3720.pdf
https://store.samhsa.gov/shin/conten...SMA12-4474.pdf
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https://store.samhsa.gov/shin/conten...0/SMA-3720.pdf
https://store.samhsa.gov/shin/conten...SMA12-4474.pdf
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You're still logged on an hour and a half after your post. That's great! Read around and post often--it works if you work it!
Here's a couple good threads to join:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post5695930
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post5695647
Here's a couple good threads to join:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post5695930
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post5695647
As others have already said, it's not easy and you do feel like you are crawling at first. Each day is a struggle but each day sober is also a victory. As the days start adding up, the hard work and pain start to have meaning. Things start to get better and you suddenly realize you are heading in a good direction. It's a lifestyle change and that can be scary but once you realize how much your life starts to improve with time, it's worth everything you have to do to maintain your sobriety. You can do this and once you do you will realize you have strength you never imagined!
It was right around this time of the year when I quit, I went on about a 14 day bender and woke up after news years weekend knowing I just couldn't do it anymore.
You start small...one day sober is all you need to worry about first. And you accept that drinking is not an option NO MATTER WHAT. You will need help me you can find it here on SR, and in lots od other places.
You start small...one day sober is all you need to worry about first. And you accept that drinking is not an option NO MATTER WHAT. You will need help me you can find it here on SR, and in lots od other places.
Acceptance and willingness.
No magic. No will-power. I waited for the first as well (that's procrastination), and tried the second (but realised that my 'will' needed breaking down, not building up).
When I got sick and tired enough of being sick and tired, I accepted that I needed to change for my life to change. I took the risk of becoming the hole in the polo mint, removed alcohol from my life; and went to AA to learn how to recover, and how to do all the stuff that sober people manage to do without alcohol (cope with feelings; deal with people; face fear; accept responsibility for myself and my actions).
There has been magic in my recovery, but I had to work for it.
Good luck.
No magic. No will-power. I waited for the first as well (that's procrastination), and tried the second (but realised that my 'will' needed breaking down, not building up).
When I got sick and tired enough of being sick and tired, I accepted that I needed to change for my life to change. I took the risk of becoming the hole in the polo mint, removed alcohol from my life; and went to AA to learn how to recover, and how to do all the stuff that sober people manage to do without alcohol (cope with feelings; deal with people; face fear; accept responsibility for myself and my actions).
There has been magic in my recovery, but I had to work for it.
Good luck.
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