What I have to do
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What I have to do
Looking back over a few 24 hours I have discovered there are very, very few things I have to do. I don't have to go to parties, wedding receptions, family functions and the list going on and on.
What I do have to do, is never ever take that first drink by guarding my sobriety like my life depended on it because it does. I have had uncomfortable conversations, numerous eye rolls, and ruffled feathers but most in my life still love me and more importantly I am sober. Normal drinkers never have and never will understand.
When my son got married I had to go to the wedding, I had to help with expenses but I didn't have to go to the reception. I told everyone that mattered I made no guarantees about how long or if I would be at the reception. My son gets it. He said, "Dad, I would rather have you alive and sober for the rest of your life than to have you at my reception for one night." As it turned out I was there most of the night and had a great time
Over the years people have given up trying to coax or guilt me into doing things concerning alcohol that I am not comfortable with. They know my wishes are non-negotiable so there is no point in even trying.
On occasions I do go to events with alcohol because I want to. I enjoy the company of a group of people that are normal drinkers. I have told a couple of them they are abusing alcohol because they drink half a glass of wine and leave the rest. To me that is alcohol abuse. In these situations I always drive separately and leave if I am feeling anxious. I don't go to drinking situations because I have to. I go to have an enjoyable time. If it is not enjoyable there is no point in going.
With all the drinking at this time of year I wanted to put down in writing how this alcoholic does it and continues to do it.
What I do have to do, is never ever take that first drink by guarding my sobriety like my life depended on it because it does. I have had uncomfortable conversations, numerous eye rolls, and ruffled feathers but most in my life still love me and more importantly I am sober. Normal drinkers never have and never will understand.
When my son got married I had to go to the wedding, I had to help with expenses but I didn't have to go to the reception. I told everyone that mattered I made no guarantees about how long or if I would be at the reception. My son gets it. He said, "Dad, I would rather have you alive and sober for the rest of your life than to have you at my reception for one night." As it turned out I was there most of the night and had a great time
Over the years people have given up trying to coax or guilt me into doing things concerning alcohol that I am not comfortable with. They know my wishes are non-negotiable so there is no point in even trying.
On occasions I do go to events with alcohol because I want to. I enjoy the company of a group of people that are normal drinkers. I have told a couple of them they are abusing alcohol because they drink half a glass of wine and leave the rest. To me that is alcohol abuse. In these situations I always drive separately and leave if I am feeling anxious. I don't go to drinking situations because I have to. I go to have an enjoyable time. If it is not enjoyable there is no point in going.
With all the drinking at this time of year I wanted to put down in writing how this alcoholic does it and continues to do it.
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Originally Posted by MIRecovery 
Looking back over a few 24 hours I have discovered there are very, very few things I have to do. I don't have to go to parties, wedding receptions, family functions and the list going on and on.
What I do have to do, is never ever take that first drink by guarding my sobriety like my life depended on it because it does.
What I do have to do, is never ever take that first drink by guarding my sobriety like my life depended on it because it does.
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Only drinking 1/2 of a glass and leaving the rest is alcohol abuse.....that makes no sense to me, but then again I am an alcoholic. LoL that is one of the things we were laughing at tonight at the meeting. I know it's not really funny but to a drunk it kinda is
Susan
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Looking back over a few 24 hours I have discovered there are very, very few things I have to do. I don't have to go to parties, wedding receptions, family functions and the list going on and on.
What I do have to do, is never ever take that first drink by guarding my sobriety like my life depended on it because it does.
What I do have to do, is never ever take that first drink by guarding my sobriety like my life depended on it because it does.
I don't go to drinking situations because I have to. I go to have an enjoyable time. If it is not enjoyable there is no point in going.
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Well done.
Originally Posted by MIRecovery
Looking back over a few 24 hours I have discovered there are very, very few things I have to do. I don't have to go to parties, wedding receptions, family functions and the list going on and on.
What I do have to do, is never ever take that first drink by guarding my sobriety like my life depended on it because it does. I have had uncomfortable conversations, numerous eye rolls, and ruffled feathers but most in my life still love me and more importantly I am sober. Normal drinkers never have and never will understand.
When my son got married I had to go to the wedding, I had to help with expenses but I didn't have to go to the reception. I told everyone that mattered I made no guarantees about how long or if I would be at the reception. My son gets it. He said, "Dad, I would rather have you alive and sober for the rest of your life than to have you at my reception for one night." As it turned out I was there most of the night and had a great time
Over the years people have given up trying to coax or guilt me into doing things concerning alcohol that I am not comfortable with. They know my wishes are non-negotiable so there is no point in even trying.
On occasions I do go to events with alcohol because I want to. I enjoy the company of a group of people that are normal drinkers. I have told a couple of them they are abusing alcohol because they drink half a glass of wine and leave the rest. To me that is alcohol abuse. In these situations I always drive separately and leave if I am feeling anxious. I don't go to drinking situations because I have to. I go to have an enjoyable time. If it is not enjoyable there is no point in going.
With all the drinking at this time of year I wanted to put down in writing how this alcoholic does it and continues to do it.
What I do have to do, is never ever take that first drink by guarding my sobriety like my life depended on it because it does. I have had uncomfortable conversations, numerous eye rolls, and ruffled feathers but most in my life still love me and more importantly I am sober. Normal drinkers never have and never will understand.
When my son got married I had to go to the wedding, I had to help with expenses but I didn't have to go to the reception. I told everyone that mattered I made no guarantees about how long or if I would be at the reception. My son gets it. He said, "Dad, I would rather have you alive and sober for the rest of your life than to have you at my reception for one night." As it turned out I was there most of the night and had a great time
Over the years people have given up trying to coax or guilt me into doing things concerning alcohol that I am not comfortable with. They know my wishes are non-negotiable so there is no point in even trying.
On occasions I do go to events with alcohol because I want to. I enjoy the company of a group of people that are normal drinkers. I have told a couple of them they are abusing alcohol because they drink half a glass of wine and leave the rest. To me that is alcohol abuse. In these situations I always drive separately and leave if I am feeling anxious. I don't go to drinking situations because I have to. I go to have an enjoyable time. If it is not enjoyable there is no point in going.
With all the drinking at this time of year I wanted to put down in writing how this alcoholic does it and continues to do it.
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