30 days was too much success
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30 days was too much success
My enabler husband took me to a bar and now I've been on a bender since Sunday. He didn't like the glow I had with sobriety. He pawned the computer I use to post on, so I'm isolated.
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Hopefully you can get back to work on your sobriety and avoid going to bars with your husband. If you can't get on to this message board, perhaps you could make it to an AA meeting.
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Glad you are back and found a way to get back on SR. A meeting sounds like a find idea, and also perhaps a serious conversation with your husband about why your sobriety is important to you and what your expectations are. Boundaries need to be set - and while it's difficult to get sober with a spouse who is still drinking, it is definitely possible.
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well that's a bit concerning.....now mind you just because you found yourself IN a bar, you did not HAVE to drink.....but that he went so far as to pawn the computer....was that done out of spite or to fund some other habit?
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curlygirl, you are going to have to take responsability for your actions and your recovery and you can start by accepting that it was you that allowed you to go to the bar and it was you that put the drinks into you. blaming your husband wont cut it.
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Originally Posted by soberwolf 
That's no excuse CG
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I'm an alcoholic and addict. Curlygirl, I would plan on going to 90 meetings in 90 days. Get a sponsor and some phone numbers. So if, for whatever reason, you get the urge to go to a "slippery place" like a bar, you can call up some sober and recovering people instead. Keep coming back!
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CurlyGirl1978, You do know how to go weeks without a drink. Now you know one way you relapse. You screwed up but "Lesson Learned". Move on and Never relapse like that again. Meaning: never go to a bar with your husband until you figure out how to do it without drinking.
Sober 34 days- a record for me. I can be around people drinking but I CAN"T be in bars or in places I use to drink. I'm told I will be able to at some point but not now. To be honest I'm waiting for Dee74, my sponsor and a few others to tell me when. Their judgement is better than mine at this point.
Sober 34 days- a record for me. I can be around people drinking but I CAN"T be in bars or in places I use to drink. I'm told I will be able to at some point but not now. To be honest I'm waiting for Dee74, my sponsor and a few others to tell me when. Their judgement is better than mine at this point.
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You didn't have to go to a bar. Many people don't understand why we want to get sober though if your husband is actively trying to sabotage your sobriety then maybe you need to have a serious talk with him or rethink your relationship.
That said, all you need to say is no, I'm not going to a bar. He can't make you go or make you drink.Welcome back to SR
That said, all you need to say is no, I'm not going to a bar. He can't make you go or make you drink.Welcome back to SR
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Sorry that happened. That sounds WAY far away from normal and healthy. But it is what it is. So, what's your plan to not let that happen again?
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