fluffyflea

I'm reading, Why he does those things, or what ever the title is.

But, are there any good books out there on why we stay?

Just curious

dandylion

Earthworm.....there is one book that directly addresses this issue....and I frequently recommend it to others who ask this same question.
"The sabre-toothed Tiger--the one reason that women stay with abusive men."
It is very easy to read....it is written by a therapist who has worked extensively with those wo have stayed in relationships after they knew that it was unwise to do so......
You can get it on Amazon for a very inexpensive price (or at a library, of course).

dandylion

***if you do read it..I would be Interested in your review......

fluffyflea

Thanx Dandylion!

fluffyflea

Does it address all types of abuse verbal/emotional/psychological/physical?

dandylion

Earthworm.......yes, all abuse......

dandylion

NYCDoglvr

In Alanon I learned the reason I stayed was because I have control issues. My focus was on his disease, not on my own issues.

fluffyflea

Yes, I've come to that realization too.

dandylion

well.l.l, being controlling is a way of coping with deeper issues....as explained in a very understandable way in the book that I recommended, earthworm...

dandylion

Blu96

Is it still abuse if he was not violent or verbal? Are there any other books if he wasn't Abusive? His drinking would consist of sitting in silence, or being emotional and loving, or passing out.