Need some insight
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Need some insight
I broke up with my ex about 7 months ago and I feel as if I've regressed in my healing. We only dated a year and a half but I was more "in love" with him than anyone in my life. I should mention my father, brother, and grandfather have all had addiction issues so its all i know. Anyway I acknowledge I loved the idea of my ex more than him as a whole. I still struggle with blaming myself. He really was under a lot of stress...why couldn't I have waited? Was I too emotionally distant? I have vulnerability issues due to a chaotic upbringing but maybe he felt emotionally isolated? I felt so overwhelmed by his needs, maybe I'm just not loving and giving enough? Maybe I'm selfish? I'm still consumed by these emotions and it's very depressing. I'm told I have so much going for me but I find that I still struggle to feel like I deserve love. Maybe im not loving? I do struggle with it at times. He said to me "you won't let me love you"....after he drank through and blew off valentine's day dinner. That quote haunts me as if maybe I put up such a wall I made it difficult. Rationally I know it can't be me, but my emotions are still so chaotic. I feel my therapist is getting sick of rehashing the same ideas week after week. Any advice? Books to read? I've read codependent no more bUT I think I need more.
Yes, you should get a sponsor, someone you really click with. It will help you, as well as working the steps. It really does make you take a hard look into your own life and who you are and how to take charge of yourself.
This forum has also helped me get through some of my darkest days. It's nice to never be alone.
This forum has also helped me get through some of my darkest days. It's nice to never be alone.
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