Scared......Nervous.....Excited
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Scared......Nervous.....Excited
Hi everyone!
I've come here seeking advice.....support....basically just want to know I'm not alone! I am attending AlAnon, but have not reached out to get a sponsor yet. My AH comes home from Rehab tomorrow. He put himself there 30 days ago. I am scared to death! Prior to him going, I was ready to leave him. My life had become unmanageable! We have been together for 24 years and married for 21. That's a lot of years to throw away, but I was done! How am I supposed to feel now? How am I supposed to get excited tomorrow when I see him? Yes I love him.....yes I missed him......but I also truly enjoyed the peace! So conflicted!!
in advance for any words of encouragement!
I've come here seeking advice.....support....basically just want to know I'm not alone! I am attending AlAnon, but have not reached out to get a sponsor yet. My AH comes home from Rehab tomorrow. He put himself there 30 days ago. I am scared to death! Prior to him going, I was ready to leave him. My life had become unmanageable! We have been together for 24 years and married for 21. That's a lot of years to throw away, but I was done! How am I supposed to feel now? How am I supposed to get excited tomorrow when I see him? Yes I love him.....yes I missed him......but I also truly enjoyed the peace! So conflicted!!
in advance for any words of encouragement!
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You are most definitely not alone. I was in your place in 2010 (when my AH went to rehab) but stuck around because he begged me not to leave. I left a couple of months ago...after 18 years together...because it did not change. It is hard. It is sad. I am also conflicted. I know now that I cannot go back. Only you can know what is right for you.
Sending you lots of love, strength, and peace. We're all here for you.
Sending you lots of love, strength, and peace. We're all here for you.
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you can still leave. or you can stay and take the wait and see approach.
don't MAKE yourself feel or behave in any way that is not authentic. even tho his going to rehab is a GOOD thing, that does not obligate you to keep putting your life and your happiness on hold, you've done that for 24 long years.
it should soon be apparent just how serious and committed he is to his sobriety and to making lasting changes.
don't MAKE yourself feel or behave in any way that is not authentic. even tho his going to rehab is a GOOD thing, that does not obligate you to keep putting your life and your happiness on hold, you've done that for 24 long years.
it should soon be apparent just how serious and committed he is to his sobriety and to making lasting changes.
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