Notices

Just got back from "the visit"

Old 11-12-2015, 04:34 PM
  # 1 (permalink)  
Member
Thread Starter
 
peanut44's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2013
Posts: 626
Just got back from "the visit"

Well, i did it. I went down and visited my mother the day before yesterday and stayed 1 night. It was a good visit in my opinion and my husband was a good sport.

She is much more feeble and hunched over and she was nothing like that the last time i saw her. Still a feisty little brat tho. Curses like a sailor lol! She's a strong woman in many ways.

We stayed with her and hubby took the couch and i stayed in the room where my step dad was. It was like he was never there. Sometimes you can feel the presence of where someone was. Not so with him. He is completely gone.

Bless his heart, he didn't suffer for a long time and his son was in the room with him when he passed. I don't think it has really sunk in yet with my mom or me.

It's late afternoon and I'm in bed. I just need to escape for awhile and this is how i do it. I feel guilty. Oh well.
peanut44 is offline  
Old 11-12-2015, 04:43 PM
  # 2 (permalink)  
Member
 
SoberLeigh's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: East Coast USA
Posts: 120,770
Sounds as though the visit went pretty well, peanut. I am sure that your mother felt by your presence during this difficult time.

Your Mom, likely, is still in denial. The next year or so could be an emotional roller coaster for her (and you).

We are here for you.

Sleep well.
SoberLeigh is offline  
Old 11-12-2015, 05:03 PM
  # 3 (permalink)  
Administrator
 
Anna's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Dancing in the Light
Posts: 61,326
Peanut, I'm glad things went well for you. I'm sure you're relieved to be home again and I don't think you should feel guilty for taking some alone time to let things settle in your mind. Again, I'm sorry for your loss, and my experience with grief is that you should not be surprised by your feelings in the next while and you will likely go through the stages of grief.
Anna is online now  
Old 11-13-2015, 12:20 AM
  # 4 (permalink)  
Member
 
MythOfSisyphus's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2012
Posts: 5,936
I'm sorry for what your family is going through, Peanut. But it sounds like you're handling it as well as one can.
MythOfSisyphus is offline  
Old 11-13-2015, 12:43 AM
  # 5 (permalink)  
Do your best
 
Soberwolf's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2014
Posts: 67,047
Soberwolf is offline  

Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off




All times are GMT -7. The time now is 06:35 AM.