overit263

I found this on another site and wanted to share. I have had to revisit some thoughts and feelings as of late since the ex husband was caught in even more lies. Made me realize that I hadn't gone through all of my feelings yet. Anyway, this was posted by an addict so I thought it was very spot on with my addict ex husband:

These are just a few things I have noticed about me personally that are directly related to me being an addict.

I think these are all common among addicts like us. Do you have any similar traits or can you add to the list?

1) I need things to be done a certain way. My way.

2) I'm selfish

3) I'm passionate

4) I want what I want and its gotta be now

5) I'm sensitive

6) I am an excellent manipulator

7) I obsess

8) I am either far right or far left. Rarely in between

9) I do things quickly (perhaps sloppily) and fix it up later (maybe)

10) I'm lazy

11) I can adapt to whatever environment in order to get what I want

12) I have many masks

piove

I liked your post, but I don't think it describes the 'features" of an addict
To me it speaks of a person who is struggling with strong emotions, has difficulty being in the moment and accept things as they are, therefore is stuck with the black and white rigidity of thinking and acting, and, more important, is wayyyy too judgemental of self. Maybe a sober addict in recovery, considering the honesty of the post

overit263

Oh yeah, it was definitely posted by a person that said they had just gone through treatment.

cynical one

If we put down the magnifying glass and pick up a mirror...with the exception of maybe 2 of them...it could be said that most behaviors fit our side as well.

lightseeker

I always have said that "water seeks it's own level". I know that every time I pointed a finger at my ex (the substance abuser in my life) that it meant that I needed to look at the 3 pointing back at me. I know that everything on that list can also apply to me when I have lost my emotional sobriety. I believe that we are all a lot more alike than we are different - just show it in different ways.