Kboys

So today is November 5th. This is the day I told AH I needed him to leave, or I would file a request for an immediate move-out order. I gave him copies of what I planned to file. He is very afraid to go to jail again, and he thinks they'll run his history and he will be arrested if I file it. There is a warrant for his arrest for a past unsettled DUI in another county.

I've been away this week at a training for work, and it was nice to get away for a few nights, without my boys (who were with my parents).

He says he will be gone by this afternoon, and is staying with his brother. I plan to go home with my boys tonight. I am SO VERY ready to be home.... but also scared of drama... not trusting he's actually going to be gone, or stay gone.
Feeling super nervous... I haven't been able to eat much the last few days.
And also sad.... really really sad.
But excited too, to start doing the things I never felt like I could with him around without being interrogated and accused of cheating or of not loving him enough,
like go to lunch with a friend once in a while, start going to the gym with my coworkers.... take more time to read, and to journal...
So I'm trying to focus on those things.

I will not go in the house if he's there when I get there.
I will call the police if he shows up drunk later on.
He doesn't have a key anymore to the house... unless he changed the locks or something while I was gone.
He's been known to squeeze through the dog door... so that will stay shut at night.

Thanks for reading

SparkleKitty

Was just hoping you were going to check in, KBoys. Sounds like you have a plan, and a lot to look forward to. xoxoxo.

THippy

Sending you lots of calming love and light. I hope that this evening and your future are peaceful.

Liveitwell

Big huge ginormous hugs....I know the feeling, friend. Keep your head up and your eyes on the prize-your family will now be safe.

LexieCat

Good luck, don't hesitate to call the police if you're scared. I forget what the ownership details are on the house--do you have the legal right to bar him?

Kboys

Thanks for the good thoughts everybody!

My parents own the home and I pay rent to them.

He has not been served with an eviction notice. So legally, he still has the right to be there... but I guess I'm kind of banking on his fear of being arrested... which is a very real fear for him, as he is on probation with the condition that he not drink any alcohol, and also he still has 30 days to serve for his last DUI over two years ago... for which there is a warrant... so he knows, or thinks... if I call the police, he's going to jail... whether he's drunk or not.

LexieCat

I'd say once he "moves out" you're probably in good shape.

Hopefully there's no more drama--enjoy your peaceful space!!

firebolt

Peaceful night to you!!

healthyagain

Wishing you a peaceful night and many more to come!

teatreeoil007

Stay safe!

redatlanta

Big hugs Lady!!!

Kboys

Thank you everybody!
Last night was quiet and uneventful, and the house was even more or less as I left it, which was surprising to me... Hoping it stays calm, but not counting on it.

Looking forward to going to the gym at noon with a co-worker!

Happy Friday!