Day 1
The only thing that's worked for me is meetings. I was very reluctant to go because thinking I am too young still in my 20s but it really was the best decision I've ever made. I tried family support, 3 different churches, and counseling but nothing eher worked.
The only person who can understand an alcoholic is another alcoholic
The only person who can understand an alcoholic is another alcoholic
Well, when I first quit I just was DONE.
I kept it in the front of my mind how awful alcohol had become for me. I did go to AA meetings for a while, they were good in that they got me up, showered and dressed and out of the house every day by 9AM- none of those things had happened in a very long time. I was able to see how distorted my thinking had become by listening to the stories of people in longer-term recovery. That was huge. I thought in my little feeble alcohol-soaked brain that I was fine, I just needed to remove alcohol. In fact, I had trouble putting two thoughts together in AA meetings. It was good for me. I don't go to meetings any more, but I did get a lot out of it.
I also spent a lot of time on these forums. I joined my Class of March thread and posted in there every day. I read everything I could.
Most importantly, I took alcohol off the table forever...it's just not an option any more, no matter what happens in my life. I don't want to go back to that misery and fear.
I kept it in the front of my mind how awful alcohol had become for me. I did go to AA meetings for a while, they were good in that they got me up, showered and dressed and out of the house every day by 9AM- none of those things had happened in a very long time. I was able to see how distorted my thinking had become by listening to the stories of people in longer-term recovery. That was huge. I thought in my little feeble alcohol-soaked brain that I was fine, I just needed to remove alcohol. In fact, I had trouble putting two thoughts together in AA meetings. It was good for me. I don't go to meetings any more, but I did get a lot out of it.
I also spent a lot of time on these forums. I joined my Class of March thread and posted in there every day. I read everything I could.
Most importantly, I took alcohol off the table forever...it's just not an option any more, no matter what happens in my life. I don't want to go back to that misery and fear.
This forum is amazing...! Lots of support for sure...Sometimes on any given day all we have is a desire to ask for help because we feel weak and don't know what to do, but know that we need to do something different than what we are currently doing because it is not working for us in healthy ways...
Good change is very possible...baby steps are really giant leaps sometimes...! Sometimes you have to get creative about what you can do DIFFERENT that would be a better way to go...
Don't ever discount baby steps as not being worth it...
I'm a recovering perfectionist and my lifelong habit has been sort of a mentality of if it is not perfect, 'sc_w it'...I've needed to break that habit and see the value of imperfection as I have interpreted it to be ...and sometimes that is just my own FAULTY interpretation!
Take care and...
Blessed Be...
Good change is very possible...baby steps are really giant leaps sometimes...! Sometimes you have to get creative about what you can do DIFFERENT that would be a better way to go...
Don't ever discount baby steps as not being worth it...
I'm a recovering perfectionist and my lifelong habit has been sort of a mentality of if it is not perfect, 'sc_w it'...I've needed to break that habit and see the value of imperfection as I have interpreted it to be ...and sometimes that is just my own FAULTY interpretation!
Take care and...
Blessed Be...
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Hi Kiki!! I'm new to sobriety too, just entered my 3rd wk.
I have tried thousands of times to cut down on drinking but i accepted that i don't have the ability to control my drinking & when i drink i dont give a s**t!!!! My addiction worsened when i started hiding booze in my wardrobe & just saying id had 1 glass of wine when innfact id necked an entire bottle secretly!!!! On the odd occasion i had a few swigs in the morning after a skin full just to perk me up (the shame🙈.
I have come clean about my drinking to my fiance & close friends & immediate family, i feel i need their support so i had to be honest.
I haven't been to any meetings, im undecided at the moment.
But this forum has been brilliant, tons of info, everyone is very friendly & we all really look out for each other (in our virtual community) being aboe to talk to other addicts has been a godsend, i felt so alone before coming here, welcome!!!
I have tried thousands of times to cut down on drinking but i accepted that i don't have the ability to control my drinking & when i drink i dont give a s**t!!!! My addiction worsened when i started hiding booze in my wardrobe & just saying id had 1 glass of wine when innfact id necked an entire bottle secretly!!!! On the odd occasion i had a few swigs in the morning after a skin full just to perk me up (the shame🙈.
I have come clean about my drinking to my fiance & close friends & immediate family, i feel i need their support so i had to be honest.
I haven't been to any meetings, im undecided at the moment.
But this forum has been brilliant, tons of info, everyone is very friendly & we all really look out for each other (in our virtual community) being aboe to talk to other addicts has been a godsend, i felt so alone before coming here, welcome!!!
The only thing that's worked for me is meetings. I was very reluctant to go because thinking I am too young still in my 20s but it really was the best decision I've ever made. I tried family support, 3 different churches, and counseling but nothing eher worked. The only person who can understand an alcoholic is another alcoholic
Well, when I first quit I just was DONE. I kept it in the front of my mind how awful alcohol had become for me. I did go to AA meetings for a while, they were good in that they got me up, showered and dressed and out of the house every day by 9AM- none of those things had happened in a very long time. I was able to see how distorted my thinking had become by listening to the stories of people in longer-term recovery. That was huge. I thought in my little feeble alcohol-soaked brain that I was fine, I just needed to remove alcohol. In fact, I had trouble putting two thoughts together in AA meetings. It was good for me. I don't go to meetings any more, but I did get a lot out of it. I also spent a lot of time on these forums. I joined my Class of March thread and posted in there every day. I read everything I could. Most importantly, I took alcohol off the table forever...it's just not an option any more, no matter what happens in my life. I don't want to go back to that misery and fear.
This forum is amazing...! Lots of support for sure...Sometimes on any given day all we have is a desire to ask for help because we feel weak and don't know what to do, but know that we need to do something different than what we are currently doing because it is not working for us in healthy ways... Good change is very possible...baby steps are really giant leaps sometimes...! Sometimes you have to get creative about what you can do DIFFERENT that would be a better way to go... Don't ever discount baby steps as not being worth it... I'm a recovering perfectionist and my lifelong habit has been sort of a mentality of if it is not perfect, 'sc_w it'...I've needed to break that habit and see the value of imperfection as I have interpreted it to be ...and sometimes that is just my own FAULTY interpretation! Take care and... Blessed Be...
I may go to an AA meeting tomorrow, read this website & try to get some exercise. I only have 28 hours of sobriety so I'm really nervous about screwing up. I really want to never drink again. It has started to make me feel extremely depressed & hopeless. It's a miserable feeling...hellish really.
Hi KiKi. I'm so glad you're here.
I felt the same way when I found SR. I was disgusted with the person I was when drinking - she was obnoxious, reckless, untrustworthy. It was hard to admit that each time I drank, dangerous & unpredictable things happened. I clung to it for so long - remembering only the fun times. They were very long ago - and they weren't coming back. It feels wonderful to be free of it.
I felt the same way when I found SR. I was disgusted with the person I was when drinking - she was obnoxious, reckless, untrustworthy. It was hard to admit that each time I drank, dangerous & unpredictable things happened. I clung to it for so long - remembering only the fun times. They were very long ago - and they weren't coming back. It feels wonderful to be free of it.
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