Anyone in their twenties?
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Anyone in their twenties?
Hey all. Everyone on here seems so supportive and friendly, so I'm by no means saying I don't want to speak to a certain group -- I want to talk with everyone! 
I just wondered if there might also be some members in their 20s? It would be nice to make contact with some people at possibly the same point in their life as well.
I just wondered if there might also be some members in their 20s? It would be nice to make contact with some people at possibly the same point in their life as well. 
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40 years old. I Deffo think having people your own age group can help in terms of common situations etc - I know that age impacted my recovery- it shouldn't I Always think but it did - I'd been heroin addict for 3+ years was turning 40 Jan 15, the idea of waking up 40 years old a heroin addict and the first thing I do as 40 is smoke H - that age was a really strong motivation the idea of not starting my 40s using and I used that motivation to finally stop.
Do you have an idea of what you think your 30s will/should/could be like ?
Do you have an idea of what you think your 30s will/should/could be like ?
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And if you do quit? Addiction can make you idolise the notion of being clean - I found it v confronting to find out some things I blamed drink drugs on I still had same problem clean - being sober is hard like that - less excuses can be made....so bearing that in mind what would it be like if you quit and stayed sober/clean?
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I'm 27. Been going for it for 7 years, more or less.
The thing I find hard is contemplating the idea that I won't be able to drink for, say, another 50 years...but you have to avoid those thoughts and take it a day at a time and you can be very successful...
Good luck!
The thing I find hard is contemplating the idea that I won't be able to drink for, say, another 50 years...but you have to avoid those thoughts and take it a day at a time and you can be very successful...
Good luck!
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My 20s are just a distant, blurry, memory. But what I will say is that I wish I'd made the decision I finally made 5 months ago back in my 20s. Huge respect to you, and your fellow twentysomethings on here, to have had the courage and wisdom to realise you had a problem and to act on it while still so young. Your life will be so much better without alcohol holding you back.
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Originally Posted by RedManc7 
And if you do quit? Addiction can make you idolise the notion of being clean - I found it v confronting to find out some things I blamed drink drugs on I still had same problem clean - being sober is hard like that - less excuses can be made....so bearing that in mind what would it be like if you quit and stayed sober/clean?
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Originally Posted by OpenTuning
My 20s are just a distant, blurry, memory. But what I will say is that I wish I'd made the decision I finally made 5 months ago back in my 20s. Huge respect to you, and your fellow twentysomethings on here, to have had the courage and wisdom to realise you had a problem and to act on it while still so young. Your life will be so much better without alcohol holding you back.
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I am 36. I first got sober at age 22 or 23, I can't remember exactly. I was having problems with alcohol, I didn't like my behavior or how I always seemed to get drunk so I quit. I had a great group of friends who fully supported me. It was a very fun and social time in my life. I was working at a high end restaurant making tons of money in tips. My fiancee and I entertained all the time and were invited out all the time. Everyone always made sure to have a special non-alcoholic drink for me and I found it fine and easy to be sober. I continued for 14 months and enjoyed every minute sober. I would sometimes have nightmares that I was drunk and doing something destructive, embarrassing or dangerous and when I would wake in the morning I felt so grateful that it was only a dream.
I then started a new job and was surrounded by 20 or so extremely type A people more or less my age. There was a lot of psychological testing before hiring and everyone who worked in the company fit a profile that seemed to go along the lines of "work hard, play hard" There were one or two exceptions but for the most part it was a very charged, driven environment. I would go out after work for happy hour and hang out with the group. They were so much fun and it was a good way to blow off steam. Once they got to know me better they started "good-naturedly" giving me a hard time about not drinking. One day I said "you know what you little f*ckers, I could drink every last one of you under the table" and proceeded to do so. My first drink after 14 months of sobriety was an irish car bomb that I downed in about 2 seconds.
I look back now and see how immature I was, how I had nothing to prove to these people, how I had been able to have plenty of fun and be part of the group without drinking, how I had absolutely no reason to give into their lighthearted teasing/peer pressure, that I threw so much away for nothing. Here I am almost 15 years later, really really struggling to get sober. Years of heartache and misery, self loathing and regret due to one stupid decision.
I tell you this story as yet another reminder that it only gets worse, much worse. I tell you this story to let you know that it is entirely possible and enjoyable to be sober in your 20's. I tell you this story to warn you that their might be moments of silly peer pressure, but you don't have to give in. Stay strong!
I then started a new job and was surrounded by 20 or so extremely type A people more or less my age. There was a lot of psychological testing before hiring and everyone who worked in the company fit a profile that seemed to go along the lines of "work hard, play hard" There were one or two exceptions but for the most part it was a very charged, driven environment. I would go out after work for happy hour and hang out with the group. They were so much fun and it was a good way to blow off steam. Once they got to know me better they started "good-naturedly" giving me a hard time about not drinking. One day I said "you know what you little f*ckers, I could drink every last one of you under the table" and proceeded to do so. My first drink after 14 months of sobriety was an irish car bomb that I downed in about 2 seconds.
I look back now and see how immature I was, how I had nothing to prove to these people, how I had been able to have plenty of fun and be part of the group without drinking, how I had absolutely no reason to give into their lighthearted teasing/peer pressure, that I threw so much away for nothing. Here I am almost 15 years later, really really struggling to get sober. Years of heartache and misery, self loathing and regret due to one stupid decision.
I tell you this story as yet another reminder that it only gets worse, much worse. I tell you this story to let you know that it is entirely possible and enjoyable to be sober in your 20's. I tell you this story to warn you that their might be moments of silly peer pressure, but you don't have to give in. Stay strong!
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