First time here - I need advice
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First time here - I need advice
This is my first posting on Sober Recovery. I debated on going to Al-Anon, but am not there yet so this is my next attempt at finding some community support from other people going through similar situations.
A little background on me: My entire life I have been affected by addicts. My uncle was a meth user since I can remember and my mom is such a caring, compassionate person, that she wanted to save him (which ended up enabling him). He was very involved in our lives and my brother and I saw way, way too much. He is now clean for about 3 years now and I was finally feeling like addiction wasn't a big part of my life.
Two years ago, we found proof that my sister-in-law (husband's sister) was using heroine. It was terrifying and sad and infuriating all at the same time. About a year ago, she was in a 90 day rehab. She stayed clean for about a month out of rehab and then relapsed. Once she relapsed, she fell even harder. She went completely MIA, we had no way of contacting her. The only way we know that she is alive is by checking online escort ads and seeing if she has logged onto facebook (I think she uses fb to deal drugs).
One week ago, I received a call from the police department saying they found her suitcase and there was a paper with my phone number on it. They were trying to find her because they were very concerned by the contents of the bag (she uses heroine and is a prostitute so I am sure there was something in there hinting at that). They asked us to reach out to her and let them know they want to return her things. I sent her a fb message, which has not been read, and she has not logged on. I found her most recent ad (the night before the bag was found) and called the phone number on the ad, it went to voicemail. My SIL does not leave her bags, ever. They found it randomly in an apartment complex, next to a pool. I am worried about what led to the bag being found, especially since her online presence has been inactive since the night before her bag was found. Is she alive? Is she hurt? I am wondering if I should give the police her "work" number. Maybe they would do a sting operation.The only thing holding me back is, what if her pimp monitors the phones and blames her for what could happen? What would you do?
A little background on me: My entire life I have been affected by addicts. My uncle was a meth user since I can remember and my mom is such a caring, compassionate person, that she wanted to save him (which ended up enabling him). He was very involved in our lives and my brother and I saw way, way too much. He is now clean for about 3 years now and I was finally feeling like addiction wasn't a big part of my life.
Two years ago, we found proof that my sister-in-law (husband's sister) was using heroine. It was terrifying and sad and infuriating all at the same time. About a year ago, she was in a 90 day rehab. She stayed clean for about a month out of rehab and then relapsed. Once she relapsed, she fell even harder. She went completely MIA, we had no way of contacting her. The only way we know that she is alive is by checking online escort ads and seeing if she has logged onto facebook (I think she uses fb to deal drugs).
One week ago, I received a call from the police department saying they found her suitcase and there was a paper with my phone number on it. They were trying to find her because they were very concerned by the contents of the bag (she uses heroine and is a prostitute so I am sure there was something in there hinting at that). They asked us to reach out to her and let them know they want to return her things. I sent her a fb message, which has not been read, and she has not logged on. I found her most recent ad (the night before the bag was found) and called the phone number on the ad, it went to voicemail. My SIL does not leave her bags, ever. They found it randomly in an apartment complex, next to a pool. I am worried about what led to the bag being found, especially since her online presence has been inactive since the night before her bag was found. Is she alive? Is she hurt? I am wondering if I should give the police her "work" number. Maybe they would do a sting operation.The only thing holding me back is, what if her pimp monitors the phones and blames her for what could happen? What would you do?
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I've sent the police to check in on my ex husband that's a heroin addict, and I knew he was actively using at that time (I'm in a state 12 hours away, and his family cannot be trusted since they all pop pills). Turned out he just didn't want to be bothered at that time, but that's all the experience I have as far as police are concerned. As I see it, if you are worried about whether she's still alive or not, I would give all of the information I could.
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