secretchord

What am I going to do this weekend? I need a plan! Help!!

secretchord

I haven't gone a Friday without wine in so long that I can't even remember. What the heck am I going to do when I get home?!

thomas11

Its a test and the only grades are pass/fail. I refer to it as breaking the cycle. And its hard, but achievable. BREAK THAT CYCLE. Try not to freak out, stay calm, even bored. Just don't drink no matter what. Tomorrow morning will be your reward. Wish you the best.

Findingtheway

Ideas you could try.

A) Read a book
B) Watch a movie
C) Have dinner with a friend
D) Go to a AA meeting?
E) Call someone and talk
F) Hang out on SoberRecovery Forums/Chat Rooms

I know from experience that the early days (like day 5) are tough. But you CAN get through them.

Posting here is a good idea. What are YOUR thoughts on what you can do tonight?

The plan is yours, you need to keep adding to it.

You don't HAVE to drink tonight. Or tomorrow...OR the next day...Etc

SR has your back. Stick around here all night if you need to!

secretchord

I'm going to have a mental breakdown. I just know it. I want to go out and sing tonight but I can't find a sober friend to go with me. Of course, none of my "other" friends want to not drink.

doggonecarl

NOT DRINK.

It would help, maybe, to schedule out your entire weekend, hour by hour, if need be, to account for your time. Be too busy to drink. Stay distracted.

Second, make a plan for what to do when the obsession to drink strikes. Most urges don't last long. So you can walk around the block, wash a sink full of dishes, listen to your favorite song. And there is always SR.

Things not to do:

• Have alcohol in the house
• Go anywhere where there is alcohol; no Halloween parties
• Drink...

secretchord

That's a good idea.

Tonight I really want to sing. So I might go out to the bowling alley and sing some karaoke maybe by myself because I apparently have no sober friends.

Tomorrow is Halloween. I will carve the pumpkin with my son, clean the house, do laundry, read, and then take him trick or treating. After that I'll probably hang out in the chatroom here.

Sunday is going to be a killer. I plan on going to church. I haven't been there in awhile and I'm sure it would probably do me some good. Then maybe go shopping for a new purse. Then come here.

I have alcohol in the house. I have a nice stock of liquor (which I don't usually drink) and about 4-5 bottles of cab, pinot gri, Riesling, ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

sva777

Come up with a list of other things to do like watch a movie, call a friend, go on here, play with legos.

I spent the first few months surrounding myself with people I knew would not be triggers for me as well.

Soberwolf

Pour that poison away & feel good doing it don't think about your weekend think about tonight with your son don't go to karaoke but maybe watch a film with your son think about tonight that's it

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-oct-30th.html

secretchord

I recently asked a friend of mine to go out singing with me sober. I've always been there for her in the past with her many issues and so I thought she'd be there for me just this once tonight. Well, her answer was a candid "HELL NO." She's "had a week" and plans on drinking heavily tonight. WTF!?!

secretchord

Oh boy. I don't think I'm ready for that yet. Baby steps.... Right?

Soberwolf

Secretchord try not to think about that I want you to try some breathing exercises that help me it really helps

3 Anxiety Breathing Techniques You Can Practice*Anywhere - Self help for anxiety -


Another thing that really helped was venting stay talking to us try to remain calm and pls pls try those breathing exercises

Forget karoke tonight pls

Stay online you got us you got your son your not alone

Oh by pouring away that alcohol you strengthen your sobriety if you don't feel ready think about why is anyone ever ready ?

You can do this

Findingtheway

It's another step towards you not drinking tonight. It takes away the temptation. I would get rid of it...

For tonight draw up an IRON clad plan to NOT drink tonight. Just for tonight. If you're willing to share about it, i'd love to hear it!

All the best.

secretchord

Because I kind of want to drink again some day.

Wine is expensive.

I'm in such a mind trap. Ugh.

Findingtheway

I can relate. But at the end of my drinking it caused me NOTHING but pain and misery.

Expensive or not...I had no use for Alcohol anymore.

Again, you have our (MY) support. And i hope you have a wonderful (Alcohol Free) weekend.

We're here if you need us.

Jackandbess2

Do what ever it takes to keep busy. Clean the house from top to toe, do some gardening or paint a room. Do absolutely anything to keep your self busy.

doggonecarl

The wish of many an alcoholic. But until we (those seeking recovery) get past that hurdle, sobriety remains elusive.

I know you can't get your mind around never drinking. But if you think that one day that you can drink...then one day you will. Hope for your sake that one day isn't today.

Soberish

Sorry I double posted, the post is below

Soberish

I've been where you are at so I know this hesitation you have. But this question is for yourself, hopefully to get you thinking a bit more in depth. So here goes....If you want to stop drinking then why do you want to drink in the future?

Soberish

Doggoncarl! Ya beat me to it!