Thoughts that helped me

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10-21-2015, 10:59 AM

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CaringScared

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Thoughts that helped me

I was feeling acutely anxious yesterday about my bf--"What is he doing, where is he," etc. Then I had some thoughts that calmed me down.

Thought one: HE doesn't have to want to be with me instead of with crack. -I- have to want to be with me instead of with crack. I need to end my obsession with crack being so great. I need to prefer me to crack. He doesn't have to. I have to. I have to prefer to be in my own life rather than in anxiety and jealousy over crack.

Thought two: He has no obligation to me, and I have no obligation to him. He has no obligation to think or act in any particular way toward me, he truly does not. And likewise, I have no obligation toward him. This thought gave me a lot of freedom.

I went on to watch the baseball playoffs with my friends and while I still had moments of anxiety, it was a pretty good night. And yes, we did wind up talking, but I didn't let the chaos exhaust me. And I feel calm this morning.

10-22-2015, 04:31 AM

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Ann

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HE doesn't have to want to be with me instead of with crack. -I- have to want to be with me instead of with crack. I need to end my obsession with crack being so great. I need to prefer me to crack. He doesn't have to. I have to. I have to prefer to be in my own life rather than in anxiety and jealousy over crack.

Wow, profound truths! Well done.

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