Probably was not the best idea
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Probably was not the best idea
My girl friend had gotten us tickets to a play in Hollywood. She didn't check in advance what the venue was and it turns out the venue is a bar! Yes, a fudgen bar!! I had a hard time not walking over to the bartender and asking for a beer.
I told my gf that I understand she was not aware that the venue is a bar but it really was not a good idea to have taken me there tonight. And to next time please do a little more research. If I am going to quit hanging out somewhere it is best not to hang out at my weakest spot. I go there and have a hell of a time... I guess I had a hell of time tonight but in a different way.
The play was a remake of Point Break. It was really funny and I laughed hard many times. I enjoyed it a lot when it was going on but waiting an hour and a half before and a twenty minute intermission is where I had a difficult time. I was agitated at times and a bit of short fuse.
Close call. To close to soon for me.
I told my gf that I understand she was not aware that the venue is a bar but it really was not a good idea to have taken me there tonight. And to next time please do a little more research. If I am going to quit hanging out somewhere it is best not to hang out at my weakest spot. I go there and have a hell of a time... I guess I had a hell of time tonight but in a different way.
The play was a remake of Point Break. It was really funny and I laughed hard many times. I enjoyed it a lot when it was going on but waiting an hour and a half before and a twenty minute intermission is where I had a difficult time. I was agitated at times and a bit of short fuse.
Close call. To close to soon for me.
First of all, I love your QOTSA avatar.
Well done for getting through it! I think it's really nice of your girlfriend to get those tickets for you both, and she probably didn't realise it was a bar. The thing I have to remind myself to accept is that alcohol is everywhere, I cannot avoid it. It will be at every gig, comedy show, theatre I go to. I just have to deal with it and make sure I have a plan to not drink.
At least you both know from now on
Well done for getting through it! I think it's really nice of your girlfriend to get those tickets for you both, and she probably didn't realise it was a bar. The thing I have to remind myself to accept is that alcohol is everywhere, I cannot avoid it. It will be at every gig, comedy show, theatre I go to. I just have to deal with it and make sure I have a plan to not drink.
At least you both know from now on
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First of all, I love your QOTSA avatar.
Well done for getting through it! I think it's really nice of your girlfriend to get those tickets for you both, and she probably didn't realise it was a bar. The thing I have to remind myself to accept is that alcohol is everywhere, I cannot avoid it. It will be at every gig, comedy show, theatre I go to. I just have to deal with it and make sure I have a plan to not drink.
At least you both know from now on
Well done for getting through it! I think it's really nice of your girlfriend to get those tickets for you both, and she probably didn't realise it was a bar. The thing I have to remind myself to accept is that alcohol is everywhere, I cannot avoid it. It will be at every gig, comedy show, theatre I go to. I just have to deal with it and make sure I have a plan to not drink.
At least you both know from now on
Alcohol being everywhere is truth. But for me not even having a week sober and struggling as I have been; it was to soon to be in a place like that tonight.
On the way home went and bought ice cream, ginger beer sodas, and other junk food. Not good for health either but at least I am not drinking booze.
If your girlfriend says let's pop into the store to buy some food and they sell alcohol in that store, do you start berating her for "not doing her research"? You have a problem with drinking. If you don't drink the stuff, it's not going to affect you. It may be sitting close to you, in a bottle behind the bar or on the counter of a store, but it can't get you drunk unless you buy it and pour it down your throat.
That's the great value of having a plan to stay sober. But it's down to you, not your GF to sort it out.
That's the great value of having a plan to stay sober. But it's down to you, not your GF to sort it out.
Normal people don't think about things like that...at all. They have no clue and don't "get" our problem. When my wife would propose things like that in early sobriety I would just tell her "At this point that's probably not some place I need to be" end of story.
Good on you for making it through it. Not many could.
Good on you for making it through it. Not many could.
Glad you made it through. It was necessary to change where I went, what I did and who I hung out with when I made a decision to not die of drinking poison daily.
Those decisions weren't not always easy - simply removing alcohol from my daily life yet going to the same places, interacting with the same people and doing the same things would have never allowed me to stack much sober time.
Around 6 months I met up with a friend at a franchise sports place to watch football - that was my first venture back somewhere I use to go.
Change is possible but as you aptly commented we can't just go to the same places!
Thanks for the post
Those decisions weren't not always easy - simply removing alcohol from my daily life yet going to the same places, interacting with the same people and doing the same things would have never allowed me to stack much sober time.
Around 6 months I met up with a friend at a franchise sports place to watch football - that was my first venture back somewhere I use to go.
Change is possible but as you aptly commented we can't just go to the same places!
Thanks for the post
I am a professional musician and often must play in venues that serve alcohol. Booze is omnipresent and I have to find a way to negotiate the world with this reality. The way I do it is not to pick up that first drink. I wish you the best. Sobriety is not easy but it is wonderful.
Very glad that you made it through, GoesWithThe Flow, and that you are your GF are now on the same page.
As others have pointed out, Normies don't get it (or how very fortunate they are that they don't). It is very wise of you to want to avoid triggering places and situations, especially in the early days. Bottom line, though, is that it is ultimately up to us to garner the strength to continue to say no to alcohol no matter the place or situation.
Glad you enjoyed the show.
As others have pointed out, Normies don't get it (or how very fortunate they are that they don't). It is very wise of you to want to avoid triggering places and situations, especially in the early days. Bottom line, though, is that it is ultimately up to us to garner the strength to continue to say no to alcohol no matter the place or situation.
Glad you enjoyed the show.
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If your girlfriend says let's pop into the store to buy some food and they sell alcohol in that store, do you start berating her for "not doing her research"? You have a problem with drinking. If you don't drink the stuff, it's not going to affect you. It may be sitting close to you, in a bottle behind the bar or on the counter of a store, but it can't get you drunk unless you buy it and pour it down your throat.
That's the great value of having a plan to stay sober. But it's down to you, not your GF to sort it out.
That's the great value of having a plan to stay sober. But it's down to you, not your GF to sort it out.
Walking into a store with booze is way different than being in a bar. For one, 98% of people at a bar are drinking alcohol around me. Its not on a aisle that I could avoid, its everywhere in your face, so that is not a valid comparison.
She wants to help me get sober then she should be more aware of where she plans for us to go; I don't make plans, I just go with the flow.
In the end if I drink, its on me. But you know what, when I drink I don't really care. She cares more about than I do...
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Thank you to all who gave me awesome words of encouragement. I have been sober for four days now. I felt good today about being sober and I am sure I will feel good about this tomorrow. I really feel that at this point I have to just take it day by day until I rack up at least a month. Once I get there I feel I will be okay about being sober. I have done this before, not to long ago, I can do it again!
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Glad you made it through. It was necessary to change where I went, what I did and who I hung out with when I made a decision to not die of drinking poison daily.
Those decisions weren't not always easy - simply removing alcohol from my daily life yet going to the same places, interacting with the same people and doing the same things would have never allowed me to stack much sober time.
Around 6 months I met up with a friend at a franchise sports place to watch football - that was my first venture back somewhere I use to go.
Change is possible but as you aptly commented we can't just go to the same places!
Thanks for the post
Those decisions weren't not always easy - simply removing alcohol from my daily life yet going to the same places, interacting with the same people and doing the same things would have never allowed me to stack much sober time.
Around 6 months I met up with a friend at a franchise sports place to watch football - that was my first venture back somewhere I use to go.
Change is possible but as you aptly commented we can't just go to the same places!
Thanks for the post
I am a professional musician and often must play in venues that serve alcohol. Booze is omnipresent and I have to find a way to negotiate the world with this reality. The way I do it is not to pick up that first drink. I wish you the best. Sobriety is not easy but it is wonderful.
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