The Language of Letting Go, October 1
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The Language of Letting Go, October 1
OCTOBER 1
You are reading from the book "The Language of Letting Go."
Be Who You Are
In recovery, we're learning a new behavior. It's called Be Who You Are.
For some of us, this can be frightening. What would happen if we felt what we felt, said what we wanted, became firm about our beliefs, and valued what we needed? What would happen if we let go of our camouflage of adaptation? What would happen if we owned our power to be ourselves?
Would people still like us? Would they go away? Would they become angry?
There comes a time when we become willing and ready to take that risk. To continue growing, and living with ourselves, we realize we must liberate ourselves. It becomes time to stop allowing ourselves to be so controlled by others and their expectations and be true to ourselves - regardless of the reaction of others.
Before long, we begin to understand. Some people may go away, but the relationship would have ended anyway. Some people stay and love and respect us more for taking the risk of being whom we are. We begin to achieve intimacy, and relationships that work.
We discover that who we are has always been good enough. It is who we were intended to be.
Today, I will own my power to be myself.
©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.
You are reading from the book "The Language of Letting Go."
Be Who You Are
In recovery, we're learning a new behavior. It's called Be Who You Are.
For some of us, this can be frightening. What would happen if we felt what we felt, said what we wanted, became firm about our beliefs, and valued what we needed? What would happen if we let go of our camouflage of adaptation? What would happen if we owned our power to be ourselves?
Would people still like us? Would they go away? Would they become angry?
There comes a time when we become willing and ready to take that risk. To continue growing, and living with ourselves, we realize we must liberate ourselves. It becomes time to stop allowing ourselves to be so controlled by others and their expectations and be true to ourselves - regardless of the reaction of others.
Before long, we begin to understand. Some people may go away, but the relationship would have ended anyway. Some people stay and love and respect us more for taking the risk of being whom we are. We begin to achieve intimacy, and relationships that work.
We discover that who we are has always been good enough. It is who we were intended to be.
Today, I will own my power to be myself.
©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.
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Before long, we begin to understand. Some people may go away, but the relationship would have ended anyway. Some people stay and love and respect us more for taking the risk of being whom we are. We begin to achieve intimacy, and relationships that work.
We discover that who we are has always been good enough. It is who we were intended to be.
We discover that who we are has always been good enough. It is who we were intended to be.
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Maybe I should start a new thread with this info - but I got a book in the mail yesterday that I ordered a long time ago. The move delayed it showing up. Umm - I read HALF of it last night and so much of it is on this very subject. I will go back and reread and do the worksheets at the end of each chapter when I am done.
I have struggled the last 3 years in finding the roots of my codependency. I grew up in a loving, non alcohol addicted family. The fact that I've hid my own TRUE identity from myself my whole life is a really new and difficult concept for me. This book is pulling the wool off my eyes - fast. It's making my "reasons" easier to find, and it's bringing to light some toxic things in my own "perfect, loving" family. Life. Changing. Moreso than the other 15 books on addiction and codependency i've read.
Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You: Darlene Lancer: 9781616495336: Amazon.com: Books
Someone in here i think recommended it - and I wish I could remember who - and fly out and give them a big hug. And flowers.
I have struggled the last 3 years in finding the roots of my codependency. I grew up in a loving, non alcohol addicted family. The fact that I've hid my own TRUE identity from myself my whole life is a really new and difficult concept for me. This book is pulling the wool off my eyes - fast. It's making my "reasons" easier to find, and it's bringing to light some toxic things in my own "perfect, loving" family. Life. Changing. Moreso than the other 15 books on addiction and codependency i've read.
Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You: Darlene Lancer: 9781616495336: Amazon.com: Books
Someone in here i think recommended it - and I wish I could remember who - and fly out and give them a big hug. And flowers.
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