healthyagain

It looks like I am divorced. I say it looks like because I am in disbelief. Just got the papers from the attorney in the mail. Will have to call them and see if this is it. I have a stone for a heart right now. Feeling like a zombie maybe?

And I should be gentle to myself today. And tomorrow.

honeypig

And beyond....even when you've waited for and wanted the divorce, there is a certain finality to it that kind of knocks you for a loop. Even when you thought you had no more wild hopes, you maybe kind of did.

Take good care of yourself, healthyagain. Sending hugs.

FireSprite

((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))) It's going to take some time to process.

HHTexas

I admire your courage. Hugs!

amy55

Hi,

I do totally understand how you can be feeling now. It's like strange in a way, that a "piece of paper" can change your life. It doesn't feel real.

I know with mine, I guess I was also in a "state of shock". It was like, after 27 years this "piece of paper" just ended it. I didn't know how to feel, so it was like I felt nothing. Perhaps it was a calmness that I felt, or perhaps I knew that I finally had to move into "acceptance".

Take as long as you need, we are here for you.

((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))
amy

healthyagain

Yes Amy! Exactly! It is a little stack of papers that ended it all. It is surreal again. I paid the fee exactly a month ago. It was a quickie, what they call here "emergency" divorce, only because we have no kids and property to argue about. And when you think about it . . . in almost 9 years . . . nothing to split . . . except some joint debt (taxes and car loan). I asked for no support, just wanted to be free again, free from alcohol and verbal attacks. And now I am like, "what am I going to do with all this freedom?" Well tell you what, I'll look at this as a second chance in life. And I am very sad now, but tomorrow is a brand new day.

firebolt

((HUgs))) Every day is a new day! Maybe make some lists - things that make you happy, goals, things you want to learn, people to catch up with. Keep busy with the best things in life - you deserve it!!

Butterfly

((((Hugs)))) healthyagain. Being gentle with yourself sounds like a good way forward.