I'm coming here first
I'm coming here first
to ask my ideas.
My husband called and left a v/m asking if we could talk to figure things out. I haven't called him back
I don't have any desire or feelings or even rush to even talk to him right now, and don't want to break no contact. But, I know we need to and it has to happen.
My thought process is not to call him back, but do you think that just delays my moving forward longer? He's been gone a month now and hasn't called so clearly there isn't any rush.
My husband called and left a v/m asking if we could talk to figure things out. I haven't called him back
I don't have any desire or feelings or even rush to even talk to him right now, and don't want to break no contact. But, I know we need to and it has to happen.
My thought process is not to call him back, but do you think that just delays my moving forward longer? He's been gone a month now and hasn't called so clearly there isn't any rush.
If he wants to come over and get the rest of his stuff he knows where the house is.
My reality is no longer rushing to do everything right away as if I was on some imaginary clock being timed how fast I do something . The old me would of rushed to return the call.
Now I have no rush to do anything for him. Its not a big deal anymore.
In the past this would happen and then he would be back in the house now things have changed in me,
I forget how many times we agreed on something and he never followed through. If he finished the divorce he would sign and turn it in that's all.
My biggest obstacle to over come right now is what i'm going to eat for dinner now a days not cleaning up **** anymore lol
Good on you, Pia! You sound MORE than ready. If it were me, I'd email him stating there's nothing to talk about unless it is about why you are not signing off on the divorce papers. Do you each have an attorney?
Hi Refiner- No I did it myself since it would be an uncontested divorce. Everything is mine prior to marriage house,car etc. I'm just leaving him alone . He knows what he needs to do and I am not really in a rush anyways. Once we are divorce my house insurance and vehicle will go up because I get a marriage discount . I also have learned that when I force something to happen it never turns out the way I envisioned, so I don't do it anymore.
OH ok. I didn't know you could draw up a divorce without an attorney. My divorce was also uncontested but we still needed an attorney but that was 16 years ago. I sure hope he doesn't want to start to "contest" it then because I believe legally he's entitled to half of everything. At least in the state I'm in.
OH ok. I didn't know you could draw up a divorce without an attorney. My divorce was also uncontested but we still needed an attorney but that was 16 years ago. I sure hope he doesn't want to start to "contest" it then because I believe legally he's entitled to half of everything. At least in the state I'm in.
I am hoping he doesn't start bothering me. I wrote my feelings in my journal and hope to leave it there and enjoy my weekend. I am actually going to HOPEFULLY invite friends over. Since I have been with husband no one has wanted to come around, they said he was creepy and had a uncomfortable vibe.
So I am going to clean and cut the yard today. I hope you have a nice weekend as well.
Why don't you force this divorce issue? Have you spoken to an attorney at all? Do you know for a fact that any trouble he gets into will not come back to bite you?
I would have had that divorce over with a long time ago. You can get divorced without his signature. This is worth paying an attorney a few hundred bucks.
I would have had that divorce over with a long time ago. You can get divorced without his signature. This is worth paying an attorney a few hundred bucks.
I hate to talk to him or any interaction because i know he will tell me what i want to hear or agree on but then doesnt follow through. I get bent out of shape talking to him and im exhausted and then angry by the time im through. Ive set my cell phone to automatic hang up on his calls now.
You could talk to a lawyer and get divorced without your husband's signature. That's what I'm saying. You may not even need a lawyer.
Google "Divorce without spouse signature" and your state.
Obviously he's not going to help you, here.
Google "Divorce without spouse signature" and your state.
Obviously he's not going to help you, here.
Let me look into it. thank you for the suggestion.
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