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Thank you
I just wanted to say thank you to all of you. I can be quite shy and I don't have a lot of friends. (Actually the words I prefer to use are "reserved" and "refined"!)
Thanks for letting me talk and for giving me advice and guidance and a kick up the butt when I need it!
I am job hunting at the moment and I am finding the nights quite lonely. I have too much time to think. I did some baking today and read a book. I will be 35 in almost one months time. This wasn't how my life was supposed to be.
I suppose at least I'm almost 35 and sober and not 35 and drinking so for that I'm very grateful and I couldn't do it without the support I get here.
Thanks for letting me talk and for giving me advice and guidance and a kick up the butt when I need it!
I am job hunting at the moment and I am finding the nights quite lonely. I have too much time to think. I did some baking today and read a book. I will be 35 in almost one months time. This wasn't how my life was supposed to be.
I suppose at least I'm almost 35 and sober and not 35 and drinking so for that I'm very grateful and I couldn't do it without the support I get here.
You're sober, that's what counts. I wish you success in your job search. And an early happy birthday. 
awesome Tetra
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Tetra I do like Trachy's suggestion. Is there a local adult education centre where you could do an evening course such as learn a language or a craft or whatever interests you? It could also be a nice way to meet new friends.
And FWIW, I think you are a sweetheart.
And FWIW, I think you are a sweetheart.
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You are at a great age! And being sober, refined and reserved is an asset that will serve you well in the future. Probably, the big question is what would you like your life to be now? If you can answer that question, the first step won't be far away.
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Tetra, you have so much of your life left! I'm 70 and no longer think the end is near :-). Each day is a new adventure and time going by feels irrelevant. Regrets don't move us while resolve does. Simply resolve to make each day count for you.
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Tetra
Keep your chin up and persevere. That's the key to achieving your goal, perseverance. It isn't intelligence, money or looks. Self belief and perseverance will get you where you need to be. Oh, and dump projections of what one 'ought' to be. Delusions that have no benefit and are simply untrue.
On the plus side, you're a delight, sober and not even 40 ! Wow, so much promise ! Keep going Tetra !
Keep your chin up and persevere. That's the key to achieving your goal, perseverance. It isn't intelligence, money or looks. Self belief and perseverance will get you where you need to be. Oh, and dump projections of what one 'ought' to be. Delusions that have no benefit and are simply untrue.
On the plus side, you're a delight, sober and not even 40 ! Wow, so much promise ! Keep going Tetra !
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Hi Tetra,
You have made a lot of progress, more than enough to be proud of yourself
Your post made me reminisce a bit.... At 35, I was at the absolute worst of my alcoholism... not only that but the most intense existential crisis I'd ever experienced, and it spanned pretty much all areas of my life (including professional). Profoundly hopeless and desperate for a good while that maybe I destroyed everything good in my life with a series of choices and there is no way out. It took me a few more years of far-from-linear process to finally truly get to a better place in every sense. From what I have seen, it's a slow process for most of us. You have come very far and what lies ahead is up to you and how you use your resources.
Good luck with the job hunt!
You have made a lot of progress, more than enough to be proud of yourself
Your post made me reminisce a bit.... At 35, I was at the absolute worst of my alcoholism... not only that but the most intense existential crisis I'd ever experienced, and it spanned pretty much all areas of my life (including professional). Profoundly hopeless and desperate for a good while that maybe I destroyed everything good in my life with a series of choices and there is no way out. It took me a few more years of far-from-linear process to finally truly get to a better place in every sense. From what I have seen, it's a slow process for most of us. You have come very far and what lies ahead is up to you and how you use your resources.
Good luck with the job hunt!
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