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Old 09-13-2015, 03:03 PM
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Dealing with grief

Today is a bad day. I miss my daughter so much. Thoughts of happy days together that will never come to pass. Regrets for years of being a drunk Dad, Grand Children that will never be. Mostly I just miss her smile.

What I have learned through this nightmare is grief comes and goes. Tomorrow or the next day I will feel better than I do but when your in it things look pretty dark.

Well my friends, "Here is to a sober today and a better tomorrow ."
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Old 09-13-2015, 03:18 PM
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Thinking of you in your terrible loss.
My husband died 8 years ago, grief is terrible anguish and despair. We can but honour our lost loved ones by staying sober.
You are amazingly courageous and have been an inspiration to me.
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Old 09-13-2015, 03:24 PM
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I'm sorry MIR. I can't even imagine.
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Old 09-13-2015, 03:28 PM
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MIR, I'm sorry you have bad days like this.

I am sure your daughter would not want you to suffer more with guilt. I suspect she is smiling at you right now.
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Old 09-13-2015, 03:34 PM
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Old 09-13-2015, 03:46 PM
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Old 09-13-2015, 03:59 PM
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So sad regarding your loss. My best friends daughter also died eleven months ago now. I have been there to support him the best that I can. It's such a painful thing for a parent to lose a child. My heart aches for you.

Thank you for showing us that no matter how rough like can be, no matter what comes our way, we can stay sober and count on God to see us through.

Your posts with your thoughts shared here on site mean a lot to me. Your encouragement is greatly appreciated.


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Old 09-13-2015, 04:02 PM
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Old 09-13-2015, 04:31 PM
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The crazy thing is I have no idea what I want other than not feeling the way I do. Posting seems to be the right thing to do but I'm not sure why. I never would have guessed how hard and intense the feelings would be.

Just babbling and thanks for the support
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Old 09-13-2015, 05:09 PM
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I am sorry for your loss. You are not alone in your grief, though it may feel so.
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Old 09-13-2015, 05:18 PM
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I don't think anyone is ever prepared for the feelings. Posting is a great way to articulate the sorrow. Remember your daughter's smile and know she would probably not want to see you sad. Hugs to you.
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Old 09-13-2015, 05:24 PM
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Sorry for your loss.

Truly my worst nightmare. I love my son like nothing I have ever felt.

My Dad.s buddy lost his son a few.years ago to cancer. I think he was 11.

They poor guy drinks nonstop now.

Glad you are here MIR.

Prayers.
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Old 09-13-2015, 05:45 PM
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Babble away our friend. We are all here to listen. I wish we could all just rally around you and just sit with you until the sorrow lifts for a moment.

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Old 09-13-2015, 05:46 PM
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I don't even know what to say.

So, lot of for you.
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Old 09-13-2015, 05:58 PM
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I think grief is the toughest of all emotions. Your daughter doesn't want you in pain and it's important you got sober and were there for her. Hugs.
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Old 09-13-2015, 06:06 PM
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so sorry for your loss. I cant even imagine what you are going through. I really admire your strength!
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Old 09-13-2015, 06:29 PM
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Sending you love & light. And hugs. Lots & lots of hugs.
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Old 09-13-2015, 06:34 PM
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Old 09-13-2015, 06:40 PM
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MIR, I'm so glad you want to share this with us. You know we love you and feel horrible about your terrible loss. I'll pray for you to get some sleep tonight & for you to wake up to a better day tomorrow.
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We're here for you MIR!!
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