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Hi everyone,
I am new here. I have been thinking of quitting or at least drastically cutting back for a while. I am tired of the hang overs, large bar/restaurant tabs, weight gain and not doing what I want to do because I am too hung over.
I don't drink every day, most often I don't go near during the work week but on Friday and Saturday night its become game on for me and the wife. This weekend alone was 4 bottles of wine and two bottles of Vodka. We are tired of it. The challenge is its an easy way to pass time. The wife has a bit more control than I do but we tend to "feed" on each othher.
I need to break the habit. If I can just make it through the weekend I am sure things will get better. Only issue is it has been years since I have made it through the weekend. I am thinking of going camping this weekend and not taking anything with us. Any advice?
I am new here. I have been thinking of quitting or at least drastically cutting back for a while. I am tired of the hang overs, large bar/restaurant tabs, weight gain and not doing what I want to do because I am too hung over.
I don't drink every day, most often I don't go near during the work week but on Friday and Saturday night its become game on for me and the wife. This weekend alone was 4 bottles of wine and two bottles of Vodka. We are tired of it. The challenge is its an easy way to pass time. The wife has a bit more control than I do but we tend to "feed" on each othher.
I need to break the habit. If I can just make it through the weekend I am sure things will get better. Only issue is it has been years since I have made it through the weekend. I am thinking of going camping this weekend and not taking anything with us. Any advice?
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Hi crm114 
I'm new to this site, but have been in recovery for just about 2 years. I was first court ordered to stop drinking because of a DUI (2 actually... within a year), but about 6 months in, I made the decision to do it for myself. I can tell you in my program, I HAD to stay away from things that triggered my need or want to drink. I wasn't an every day drinker. Probably twice a month. But when I did drink, it didn't stop. So I assessed my situations and decided where I knew I couldn't go. And I stayed away until I felt comfortable around them. I also don't go anywhere if I don't have an "out". If I do not have a definite way of leaving a place when I need to, I don't even bother going. It's not worth it to me. My recovery is the most important. And I like I said before I didn't even drink often (in regards to days in a month), but the amount I drank in one evening could have killed me. Binge drinking= still a problem. For me anyways.
My best advice is, if you would like to go camping- just assess the situation. Do you drink when you go camping normally? I guess if you do, I would question going- for now. While you are trying to quit. And like sleepie had mentioned, in person groups help tremendously too. AA was a blessing in disguise for me. I can't get enough of it. There is major support there too.
Best of luck to you!
I'm new to this site, but have been in recovery for just about 2 years. I was first court ordered to stop drinking because of a DUI (2 actually... within a year), but about 6 months in, I made the decision to do it for myself. I can tell you in my program, I HAD to stay away from things that triggered my need or want to drink. I wasn't an every day drinker. Probably twice a month. But when I did drink, it didn't stop. So I assessed my situations and decided where I knew I couldn't go. And I stayed away until I felt comfortable around them. I also don't go anywhere if I don't have an "out". If I do not have a definite way of leaving a place when I need to, I don't even bother going. It's not worth it to me. My recovery is the most important. And I like I said before I didn't even drink often (in regards to days in a month), but the amount I drank in one evening could have killed me. Binge drinking= still a problem. For me anyways.
My best advice is, if you would like to go camping- just assess the situation. Do you drink when you go camping normally? I guess if you do, I would question going- for now. While you are trying to quit. And like sleepie had mentioned, in person groups help tremendously too. AA was a blessing in disguise for me. I can't get enough of it. There is major support there too.
Best of luck to you!
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Also, if you're trying to quit for the first couple of weeks you might want to avoid situations that would be stressful or triggers to drink. Is camping something that you are comfortable with? Or would it stress you out so much that you'd want to drink? Anything that gets you away from The Routine could work if it's pleasant.
I love camping, but it stresses my wife out. Hence camping is more a solitary thing for me.
I love camping, but it stresses my wife out. Hence camping is more a solitary thing for me.
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Hi CRM welcome!
Its great that you both want to quit, or cut back (which as an alcoholic I am incapable of doing over a long stretch of time ). For me I've always known that complete abstinence was the only way...and I've tested that theory many times and failed. In recovery circles you'll hear 'half measures availed us nothing' and I believe that. For me its an all or nothing deal. I guess you can try moderation and see if that works. Or maybe just quit, one day at a time, and see if your life and health improve? Good luck!
Its great that you both want to quit, or cut back (which as an alcoholic I am incapable of doing over a long stretch of time ). For me I've always known that complete abstinence was the only way...and I've tested that theory many times and failed. In recovery circles you'll hear 'half measures availed us nothing' and I believe that. For me its an all or nothing deal. I guess you can try moderation and see if that works. Or maybe just quit, one day at a time, and see if your life and health improve? Good luck!
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Originally Posted by Frickaflip233 
I guess you can try moderation and see if that works. Or maybe just quit, one day at a time, and see if your life and health improve? Good luck!
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crm 14 - Welcome , For me moderation was just a game of cat & mouse . Sometimes the mouse would get away , other times it was sure Death !! Which honestly that's what I was looking at in the end 
No offence I hope . Best thing is your both doing it together "Lovely " Enjoy
No offence I hope . Best thing is your both doing it together "Lovely " Enjoy
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Hi CRM, I can very much relate to breaking the cycle. I think its pretty common and you are not alone. It can be done, people do it every day. It requires discipline and effort, but the rewards are worth it. Try it, and I think you will agree with me. It also sounds like you are ready to do something different. 48 hrs of drunk every week is probably not a very fun existence.
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