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Old 09-06-2015, 12:06 PM
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Hi .
I my name is Stevie and I am a recovering alcoholic ,I am 9 yrs sober my sobriety date is 12th march 2006 , Stopping drinking is easy ,staying stopped is a lot harder and in my opinion is what must be strived for and is achievable if you learn how to handle sobriety and how to live without alcohol .

People invent many excuses for lifting a drink which is really rationalizing and justifying their action , an excuse is an attempt to find a reason when there is none . I have had over the past 9 years events which are tragic ,heartbreaking ,soul destroying and devastating ,sure there where times I felt like lifting a drink but at the end of the day what I was wanting was oblivion ,yes I wanted to block out the events that were happening to me , reality was it would not have changed anything I would still have to face up to reality and realise that a drink was not the answer .

Every single time I have been faced with upsetting events and not lifted a drink ! has actually strengthened my sobriety , when I stopped drinking I was left with myself and I was not a very nice person ,I was still a liar /cheat / thief / dishonest / unfaithful / abusive/far to many character defects to mention .

Sobriety is about change if I do not change from the man who first stopped drinking ! then I will drink again , sobriety to me was about change it is an inside job ,I had to start living my life with a new outlook and unlearn most of the values and standards that I had held before ,not easy but do-able , it takes time but is so worthwhile , self respect comes through time and respect from others takes longer .

I have made many many mistakes since I first tried to get sober , 20 years at one time and drank again ,simply put I never changed in any way ok I was not drinking ,but I was like a dog without its bone very unhappy most of the time and behaved in the same way I did whilst drinking ,only thing missing was booze .

I learned from that ,only thing you can do about the past is learn from it , sobriety is the most important thing in my life and I absolutely love being sober , hope to meet new friends on here and look forward to it .
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Old 09-06-2015, 12:18 PM
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Hi and welcome.

"I have made many many mistakes since I first tried to get sober , 20 years at one time and drank again ,simply put I never changed in any way ok I was not drinking ,but I was like a dog without its bone very unhappy most of the time and behaved in the same way I did whilst drinking ,only thing missing was booze ."


Your statement is what I’ve called a dry drunk for many years which some don’t like, whatever, we are sober today.
Acting and reacting like when we were drinking to me is not a good comfortable sobriety.

We learn that work and change is required to progress in a healthy manner which leads to a feeling of being comfortable in our own skin. Half measures avail us nothing.

KEEP COMING AND BE WELL
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Old 09-06-2015, 12:30 PM
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Hiya Stevie, welcome to sr and congratulations on your 9 years and more sober time.

I was similar to you as in not liking myself and learning to live without the booze. You will probably find most of us here had to learn recovery.

I found this site a lifeline and informative, most people here had experienced or experiencing similar to myself. I could relate and learnt some valuable tools to aid in my recovery.
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Old 09-06-2015, 01:32 PM
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Welcome Stevie nice to meet you
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Old 09-06-2015, 03:49 PM
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Welcome Stevie - congrats on your recovery

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Old 09-06-2015, 04:03 PM
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Hi Stevie and well done on 9 years!
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Welcome to the Forum Stevie!!
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Old 09-10-2015, 11:06 AM
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Welcome to SR Stevie. I had to change a whole lot along the way to stay sober. I'm still learning and growing. Good to have you here.
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Welcome to SR, stevieg46. I'm so glad you've decided to share your recovery with us!
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Old 09-10-2015, 12:34 PM
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welcome!!!

and thank you for your post... it's powerful and a great reminder of many important things.

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Old 09-10-2015, 07:52 PM
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Well stated, thanks for sharing - your experience is of great value and very helpful.......

Thanks!
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