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Look I'm doing it, I'm posting before I cave and have a drink. I meant what I said, I don't want to drink ever again, but this is hitting me so hard!
I have never ever felt the desire to drink quite so much before. It's taking every part of me to say no and I'm not winning. I have a great desire to pick open some old wounds and alcohol helps me do that.
I have never ever felt the desire to drink quite so much before. It's taking every part of me to say no and I'm not winning. I have a great desire to pick open some old wounds and alcohol helps me do that.
Hi Kamie
there's always support here
Have you seen these cravings tips?
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-cravings.html
stick around - let us talk you through it.
maybe talking through these old wounds might be better?
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there's always support here
Have you seen these cravings tips?
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-cravings.html
stick around - let us talk you through it.
maybe talking through these old wounds might be better?
D
I'm going to blunt with you here, Kami because I think there's no advantage and sugar coating this for you. I have read your initial post again and I can see that you have been drinking heavily for more than 20 years. You have been arrested. You say that your drinking was one of the main reasons you divorced. When your mother was sick, you responded by getting drunk and therefore could not offer support. You have missed work on many occassions and when you do work, you leave early, come home and drink.
You joined this site in 2013 and since then you have posted less than 20 times. You say you went to AA a couple of times but you didn't go back because you didn't feel you were like the people you met there.
Let's be clear. The people you met in AA went there to address drinking problems, many of which were as serious as yours or worse. They can and will support you if you go back because they understand you.
Those of us who use SR to support our recovery can also share our experiences with you. But our assitance will be limited if you only speak to us a couple of times a year.
Look at your life and ask if you want to continue like this. If not, what changes are you going to make?
You joined this site in 2013 and since then you have posted less than 20 times. You say you went to AA a couple of times but you didn't go back because you didn't feel you were like the people you met there.
Let's be clear. The people you met in AA went there to address drinking problems, many of which were as serious as yours or worse. They can and will support you if you go back because they understand you.
Those of us who use SR to support our recovery can also share our experiences with you. But our assitance will be limited if you only speak to us a couple of times a year.
Look at your life and ask if you want to continue like this. If not, what changes are you going to make?
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I seriously don't get this. My life has been so amazing and blessed without the alcohol so why is it now that my brain is trying to railroad me!
I know the joy of being sober and I know what a mess my life was drunk. I had such a break through on Friday and now I feel like I'm holding on by the skin of my teeth. You know that little demon that sits in your ear saying why are you doing this to yourself, you know your going to cave anyway just do it!
I know the joy of being sober and I know what a mess my life was drunk. I had such a break through on Friday and now I feel like I'm holding on by the skin of my teeth. You know that little demon that sits in your ear saying why are you doing this to yourself, you know your going to cave anyway just do it!
I remember I would get cravings so bad I would sit in the bathtub rocking back an forth. It can be pretty intense in the beginning. I did notice that as soon as the liquor store closed it would stop. (10pm in MN)
Do you have access to alcohol right now? If at all possible can you get yourself safe from it? I know some places sell it 24/7. If you can remove it as a possibility you might be able to cut the cravings. Otherwise a dose of sugar can help in an emergency.
Do you have access to alcohol right now? If at all possible can you get yourself safe from it? I know some places sell it 24/7. If you can remove it as a possibility you might be able to cut the cravings. Otherwise a dose of sugar can help in an emergency.
I'm sorry. I wished for a long time I could get my exes back too.
Breakups are painful, but they allowed me to work on myself like I'd never done before.
I think that's a lot to do with why life is so good now.
I'm comfortable with who I am, and my relationship choices now reflect that.
I never grew as a drinker, but I grew a lot after it.
Try and remember than pain is not forever - there are good times ahead - none of us would be here if that wasn't true
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Breakups are painful, but they allowed me to work on myself like I'd never done before.
I think that's a lot to do with why life is so good now.
I'm comfortable with who I am, and my relationship choices now reflect that.
I never grew as a drinker, but I grew a lot after it.
Try and remember than pain is not forever - there are good times ahead - none of us would be here if that wasn't true
D
I seriously don't get this. My life has been so amazing and blessed without the alcohol so why is it now that my brain is trying to railroad me!
I know the joy of being sober and I know what a mess my life was drunk. I had such a break through on Friday and now I feel like I'm holding on by the skin of my teeth. You know that little demon that sits in your ear saying why are you doing this to yourself, you know your going to cave anyway just do it!
I know the joy of being sober and I know what a mess my life was drunk. I had such a break through on Friday and now I feel like I'm holding on by the skin of my teeth. You know that little demon that sits in your ear saying why are you doing this to yourself, you know your going to cave anyway just do it!
It's not your 'brain', it's your addiction. What we call our AV. It lies to us. Tells us all the things that it thinks will (and have in the past) made us pick up a drink. Our AV used the language of logic, and so can be easily confused with our brains.
One of hardest things for me was learning to recognise my AV. 18 months into recovery, my AV still twitters away at times, but now I know it for what it is, I can tell it to hush and ignore it ( a bit like a nagging child).
Mickey B does a great description of the AV and how it works in some of his recovery talks (for AA) - it's worth having a listen if you're struggling. Lots of great tips, plus he's proper funny as well.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJXNmvDvXn4
One of hardest things for me was learning to recognise my AV. 18 months into recovery, my AV still twitters away at times, but now I know it for what it is, I can tell it to hush and ignore it ( a bit like a nagging child).
Mickey B does a great description of the AV and how it works in some of his recovery talks (for AA) - it's worth having a listen if you're struggling. Lots of great tips, plus he's proper funny as well.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJXNmvDvXn4
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I'm going to blunt with you here, Kami because I think there's no advantage and sugar coating this for you. I have read your initial post again and I can see that you have been drinking heavily for more than 20 years. You have been arrested. You say that your drinking was one of the main reasons you divorced. When your mother was sick, you responded by getting drunk and therefore could not offer support. You have missed work on many occassions and when you do work, you leave early, come home and drink.
You joined this site in 2013 and since then you have posted less than 20 times. You say you went to AA a couple of times but you didn't go back because you didn't feel you were like the people you met there.
Let's be clear. The people you met in AA went there to address drinking problems, many of which were as serious as yours or worse. They can and will support you if you go back because they understand you.
Those of us who use SR to support our recovery can also share our experiences with you. But our assitance will be limited if you only speak to us a couple of times a year.
Look at your life and ask if you want to continue like this. If not, what changes are you going to make?
You joined this site in 2013 and since then you have posted less than 20 times. You say you went to AA a couple of times but you didn't go back because you didn't feel you were like the people you met there.
Let's be clear. The people you met in AA went there to address drinking problems, many of which were as serious as yours or worse. They can and will support you if you go back because they understand you.
Those of us who use SR to support our recovery can also share our experiences with you. But our assitance will be limited if you only speak to us a couple of times a year.
Look at your life and ask if you want to continue like this. If not, what changes are you going to make?
As for the situation with my mother, I was working full time and attending uni as well when she got diagnosed and for a good amount of time after as well, but with the added responsiblity of having to look after her during the night as well. I had zero time to drink during that stage, until she was near the end of life. I am not ashamed to say I was overwhelmed. I hit the bottle more after she passed!
Yup I have missed days due to drinking but never once have I left to come home to drink, felt like it but never acted on it.
Do you know why I didn't post more than a handful of times since 2013? I was suffering from sucidal depresion. It was all I could do to stay alive. I couldn't even think of sorting my drinking out at that time, even though I wanted to!
Yup my drinking may have caused some of the issues in my marriage, I am more than aware of this but I can assure you that it wasn't all me!
Guess what AA is not for nor does not help everybody. You have to find what works for you and it's not for me.
I have an appointment with a clinical Pscychologist tomorrow afternoon.
The reason I logged on here today was because people have told me to reach out before I have a drink, so I could get help. Instead I get your compleatly judgmental comment which quite frankly if I wasn't so committed to my sobriety would have given me my reason to drink. Think before you speak and if your going to drag up my old posts at least get it right.
Maybe this isn't the place for me if I can't post without fear of it being used against me!
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Kamie: My husband left me for another woman and so I do understand what you're going through. I thought I had a solid marriage and I was completely devastated. I hit the vodka pretty hard before, during and after my divorce but the drinking only increased my depression and damaged my health. It's okay to mourn the loss of your marriage and to feel sad but please don't drink over it. The healing process for me didn't start until I stopped numbing myself with alcohol and allowed myself to grieve in a healthy way. The emotional chaos eventually subsided and today I am sober, happy and healthy. Please don't give in to the temptation to drink.
Hiya Kamie, good on you for not picking up. Ride the storm, the weather comes out better the other side. Everyone has your best interests at heart on this forum. Though you may not see that.
AA wasn't for me , I stuck close to this site, especially when the cravings drove me crazy.
AA wasn't for me , I stuck close to this site, especially when the cravings drove me crazy.
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