MIRecovery

Not my circus not my monkeys is one of my favorite sayings.

Time and time again people, usually family members try to drag me in their conflicts and then are mad because I won't get on the crazy train with them.

Life is so much simpler when I do the next right thing, try to make myself better, and stay out of others business

Soberwolf

well said

ItWillBeWorthIt

I LOVE that saying MIR... and good for you by saying out of your family drama.

I do the same thing - a few of my family drive me crazy, there is a couple that think they are really special because they don't have any mental challenges. They just don't get it and say hurtful things.

Some people live for drama, gossip, and saying bad things about others - what a screwed up life they are living.

Sending hugs.

Bird615

Wise advice. My husband and I started practicing that and life became much calmer in our home, at least. Now we've been noticing that there is a lot less drama "over there". They all sorted it out without us butting in and further complicating matters.

Debbie329

I'm becoming like you and it's very freeing.

bexxed

My therapist likes to say that, too. I was actually thinking about making her a painting of a circus with monkeys and a sign that says "keep out" for her office.

Ananda

I love that saying! The one I use is "I don't have a dog in this fight" (borrowed that from Dee).

Used that one just yesterday on an "office space issue" at work... sorta ... here is my 2 cents, but hey ... I don't care... "no skin off my back" make your choice

It's actually a comfort as long as I really mean it

and yeah ... family for me tend to try and draw me in ... my best choice is to abstain

ReadyAtLast

Thank you for your post. I'm having a difficult time at the moment and just reading your words about doing the next right thing has helped me immensely

Thank you

tokidoki

Thank you. It's so timely, MIR. I had to remind myself of that saying just last night. (I've had monkeys in circuses all over the land)

PurpleKnight

Solid post MIR!!

Boxer

I love that saying too! I have borrowed it on several occasions

NestWasEmpty

Nice post MIR I need to get that included in my tool box to use on some of my friends

GroundhogDay

I love that saying too. It took me longer than it should have to learn not to let others ( particularly family) involve me in their drama. I also caused my fair share of drama when I was drinking. My life is much happier and calmer now.

letitgo

trachemys

I believe that's an old Polish proverb. And a favorite of mine. Kinda stuns people when you remove yourself from their drama.

MIRecovery

Hard to have a war when one side doesn't show up