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Back once again!!
I've not been on this site for many many months as I felt like a failure.... I kept trying and failing miserably at getting sober. Well I am now at 6 weeks and 5 days and I'm feeling fantastic! The first 3 weeks were horrendous, but I found a wonderful, supportive doctor who has been my rock. I've just got to keep making the daily choice to stay healthy for my kids and making plans for the future.
I'm now at the terrifying stage where I need to face the outside world once again!! I've made some excuses so far about not wanting to drink or socialise but I think it's wearing thin. Not sure how to deal with the next stage of moving forward without alcohol in my life... I don't really want to tell people that I'm in recovery... Thanks for letting me vent and share 😊
I'm now at the terrifying stage where I need to face the outside world once again!! I've made some excuses so far about not wanting to drink or socialise but I think it's wearing thin. Not sure how to deal with the next stage of moving forward without alcohol in my life... I don't really want to tell people that I'm in recovery... Thanks for letting me vent and share 😊
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Congrats on your almost 7 weeks- that's great!
You don't have to tell anyone anything- and honestly, they aren't going to care one way or the other. People don't even bat an eye anymore that I don't drink, and back in the beginning, most didn't notice, and my heavy drinking friends, well, THEY were uncomfortable, not me. I found going out to be very liberating, knowing I could get myself safely home and that I wouldn't wonder where all my money was in the morning. Make a plan for yourself, go places where you feel comfortable at first, and stay a short time. You can't avoid the world as a sober person- now is the time to enjoy it. Just remember that alcohol makes nothing better, and that almost everyone drinking it is under it's spell. You are one of the lucky ones. I sit back at parties now and am saddened at some of the behaviors I see, and so grateful to be free of all of it.
Hurray for you!
You don't have to tell anyone anything- and honestly, they aren't going to care one way or the other. People don't even bat an eye anymore that I don't drink, and back in the beginning, most didn't notice, and my heavy drinking friends, well, THEY were uncomfortable, not me. I found going out to be very liberating, knowing I could get myself safely home and that I wouldn't wonder where all my money was in the morning. Make a plan for yourself, go places where you feel comfortable at first, and stay a short time. You can't avoid the world as a sober person- now is the time to enjoy it. Just remember that alcohol makes nothing better, and that almost everyone drinking it is under it's spell. You are one of the lucky ones. I sit back at parties now and am saddened at some of the behaviors I see, and so grateful to be free of all of it.
Hurray for you!
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Congratulations on your great sober time, Nic.
No one blinks an eye when I order a sparkling water or club soda; enjoy being with your friends.
(Always have an escape plan just in case things get dicey).
No one blinks an eye when I order a sparkling water or club soda; enjoy being with your friends.
(Always have an escape plan just in case things get dicey).
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Originally Posted by VikingGF 
Congrats on your almost 7 weeks- that's great! You don't have to tell anyone anything- and honestly, they aren't going to care one way or the other. People don't even bat an eye anymore that I don't drink, and back in the beginning, most didn't notice, and my heavy drinking friends, well, THEY were uncomfortable, not me. I found going out to be very liberating, knowing I could get myself safely home and that I wouldn't wonder where all my money was in the morning. Make a plan for yourself, go places where you feel comfortable at first, and stay a short time. You can't avoid the world as a sober person- now is the time to enjoy it. Just remember that alcohol makes nothing better, and that almost everyone drinking it is under it's spell. You are one of the lucky ones. I sit back at parties now and am saddened at some of the behaviors I see, and so grateful to be free of all of it. Hurray for you!
I agree that my drinking friends will probably feel more uncomfortable than I do about me not drinking- but I just need to be ready if anyone does question it.. Alcohol literally sucked my money away- so I'm finding it a great exercise looking at my bank statements- and working out how much I'm saving now.. It's a lot!!! Thank you for your kind words and great advice.. It's very much appreciated x
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Originally Posted by SoberLeigh
Congratulations on your great sober time, Nic. No one blinks an eye when I order a sparkling water or club soda; enjoy being with your friends. (Always have an escape plan just in case things get dicey).
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Congrats Nic, and welcome back. I went to a beginner's AA meeting tonight and one of the things we discussed was that we had a choice. I love that you said that you'd keep making the daily choice at better living without alcohol. It gets easier as time goes on but I've found that having strong support is vital. I had to build a network of sober supporters. Here, and in real life. It can be done.
Well done on your sober time. Keep coming back!
Well done on your sober time. Keep coming back!
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Originally Posted by Ruby2
Congrats Nic, and welcome back. I went to a beginner's AA meeting tonight and one of the things we discussed was that we had a choice. I love that you said that you'd keep making the daily choice at better living without alcohol. It gets easier as time goes on but I've found that having strong support is vital. I had to build a network of sober supporters. Here, and in real life. It can be done. Well done on your sober time. Keep coming back!
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Originally Posted by Eshgham
Great work Nic. Keep the momentum going. And if you're a footy fan you should probably prepare for what you'll do if Freo or West Coast win the premiership!
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