This one's for Wisconsin and firebolt
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This one's for Wisconsin and firebolt
You ladies have shown incredible strength and growth and after this weekend are embarking on your well earned ticket to freedom and sanity! Congratulations and keep your eyes on the prize as the A abusers will ramp it up til they can't anymore and you're out of their grips! We here at SR have your backs and are cheering you on!
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Originally Posted by Wisconsin 
You guys really are the best!
I really can feel all the support and good wishes...it is incredibly cool.
I really can feel all the support and good wishes...it is incredibly cool.
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Liz you've been such an inspiration to watch in your strength, growth, and resolve as well! It's so great to see such ladies becoming so strong, standing up for themselves and know they're worthy of better treatment! Fly fly fly!!!
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I tried a bunch of times to start a new thread with this update, but it just won't go. So...I feel like I'm making good progress.
I'd say I am about 1/3 packed at this point, which is GREAT considering I didn't think I would be able to pack much of anything prior to the day of the move. My girls' room is 90% done, since they aren't here and they won't be back until after the move. I've gone through my little guy's toys and pulled out what I'm taking--amazingly, it's not much. When I split from my first husband, I really did take about half of the girls' toys with me. But my little guy...he has TONS of stuff, most of it bought by my AH (compensating for so little time spent together, perhaps?) No child needs even 10% of the toys he has.
Got my sewing and knitting stuff packed up. I've been worried about how to respond when my son asks about the boxes (I don't want to talk to him about it quite yet if I don't have to...he will bring it up to my AH on the phone, and it will likely send my AH into a tizzy), but he hasn't even asked about them. So I'm just carrying on for another day or so before I tell him, and thanking my HP for the reprieve. I think he will be OK with it. He's only 5, and he is VERY aware of all of the fighting and comments on it regularly.
As of right now, my AH still thinks he will be back on Sunday. It's hard not to sit and worry about how things will be if he does in fact get back before I move on Monday, but I'm trying hard to just turn that over to my HP. It helps that I'm keeping busy with work (not that I've been very productive this week) and packing.
Love you guys!
I'd say I am about 1/3 packed at this point, which is GREAT considering I didn't think I would be able to pack much of anything prior to the day of the move. My girls' room is 90% done, since they aren't here and they won't be back until after the move. I've gone through my little guy's toys and pulled out what I'm taking--amazingly, it's not much. When I split from my first husband, I really did take about half of the girls' toys with me. But my little guy...he has TONS of stuff, most of it bought by my AH (compensating for so little time spent together, perhaps?) No child needs even 10% of the toys he has.
Got my sewing and knitting stuff packed up. I've been worried about how to respond when my son asks about the boxes (I don't want to talk to him about it quite yet if I don't have to...he will bring it up to my AH on the phone, and it will likely send my AH into a tizzy), but he hasn't even asked about them. So I'm just carrying on for another day or so before I tell him, and thanking my HP for the reprieve. I think he will be OK with it. He's only 5, and he is VERY aware of all of the fighting and comments on it regularly.
As of right now, my AH still thinks he will be back on Sunday. It's hard not to sit and worry about how things will be if he does in fact get back before I move on Monday, but I'm trying hard to just turn that over to my HP. It helps that I'm keeping busy with work (not that I've been very productive this week) and packing.
Love you guys!
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Sounds great!
Incidentally, you might want to leave a few toys with dad, if your son will be staying there occasionally. I kept certain toys/games at my house that they didn't have at their dad's house, which ensured there was at least some novelty in terms of what they could play with at my place. There were a few favorite things they schemed back and forth, but certain things had a "home base." And maybe you can donate the rest to the women's shelter or something--lots of families there have to leave without their stuff.
Hope it continues to go smoothly!
Incidentally, you might want to leave a few toys with dad, if your son will be staying there occasionally. I kept certain toys/games at my house that they didn't have at their dad's house, which ensured there was at least some novelty in terms of what they could play with at my place. There were a few favorite things they schemed back and forth, but certain things had a "home base." And maybe you can donate the rest to the women's shelter or something--lots of families there have to leave without their stuff.
Hope it continues to go smoothly!
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Originally Posted by Wisconsin
Oh, I'm leaving the large majority of toys with AH. He bought them, he can figure out what to do with them all when he moves.
The kiddos' dad and I joke that the only disagreement we had when we split up was over the Nintendo--I wanted him to keep it and he wanted me to take it.
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Originally Posted by LexieCat
The kiddos' dad and I joke that the only disagreement we had when we split up was over the Nintendo--I wanted him to keep it and he wanted me to take it.
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Maybe this is appropriate for you ladies today?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iaRUz6EszOo
It's one of my favorite songs about starting over, if you don't mind a little jazzy tune.
Start All Over Again - Dave Koz feat. Dana Glover
Take a step back, turn around
Look at the world that you've let down
My, my, such a disgrace
The damage is done you can't replace it
These are the things your mind will tell you
These are the things your heart will say
These are the thoughts that leave you hopeless
These are the times you say
There is no way, no way, no way
But as long as you are breathing
You can start all over again
If your heart's beating
You can start all over again
Goodbye Sorrow, you can start all over again
Hello Tomorrow, you can start all over
Wake up to the perfect sun
The long night is over, a new day has begun
Oh yes, dare to believe mercy flows in the morning
Your spirit is set free
These are the things your mind will tell you
These are the words your heart will say
These are the thoughts that leave you fearless
These are the hands that point the way
As long as you are breathing
You can start all over again
If your heart's beating
You can start all over again
Goodbye Sorrow, you can start all over again
Hello Tomorrow, you can start all over
Everything can change if all our things are new
The impossible is here and it's crying out for you
Everything is gonna work out right
Just like we prayed it would
Growing miracle after making a yes
It's working for your good
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iaRUz6EszOo
It's one of my favorite songs about starting over, if you don't mind a little jazzy tune.
Start All Over Again - Dave Koz feat. Dana Glover
Take a step back, turn around
Look at the world that you've let down
My, my, such a disgrace
The damage is done you can't replace it
These are the things your mind will tell you
These are the things your heart will say
These are the thoughts that leave you hopeless
These are the times you say
There is no way, no way, no way
But as long as you are breathing
You can start all over again
If your heart's beating
You can start all over again
Goodbye Sorrow, you can start all over again
Hello Tomorrow, you can start all over
Wake up to the perfect sun
The long night is over, a new day has begun
Oh yes, dare to believe mercy flows in the morning
Your spirit is set free
These are the things your mind will tell you
These are the words your heart will say
These are the thoughts that leave you fearless
These are the hands that point the way
As long as you are breathing
You can start all over again
If your heart's beating
You can start all over again
Goodbye Sorrow, you can start all over again
Hello Tomorrow, you can start all over
Everything can change if all our things are new
The impossible is here and it's crying out for you
Everything is gonna work out right
Just like we prayed it would
Growing miracle after making a yes
It's working for your good
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Awesome song, FS!
Wisconsin - I'm about half packed....but have as much crap as I would if I had some little kids lol. Walkthrough is Sunday - Moving Monday. XABF is also gone til Sunday. Our coincidences are weird and I'm so happy we're here together!
Wisconsin - I'm about half packed....but have as much crap as I would if I had some little kids lol. Walkthrough is Sunday - Moving Monday. XABF is also gone til Sunday. Our coincidences are weird and I'm so happy we're here together!
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GO firebolt! Wisconsin, are you moving on Sunday the day he's coming home? Didn't you say it would be vacated and available that day or must you wait to move things in on Monday the 31st?
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