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Old 08-23-2015, 02:23 PM
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Sick and tired

Sick and tired of battling with 'will I won't I'. Can go days without a drink, can socialise without drink and usually don't drink the night before work but tonight I have and I'm fed up. Fed up feeling anxious, fed up wanting to stop, fed up not stopping. This had been on and off for about a year now. I'm fed up with myself and fed up feeling fed up. Something has to change or nothing will.
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Old 08-23-2015, 02:29 PM
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Will power never was enough for me. It took a lot of AA meetings and working rhe steps.

If what you are doing isn't working might be time to try something new
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Old 08-23-2015, 02:32 PM
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Hi crafty.

Do you have / work a plan to stay sober? I tried and failed for yeas getting a week here or there but never really committng. It has been easier this time when I made a promise to myself that I will never drink again. Now, instead of meeting cravings with fear or anger, I meet them with compassion and reason. It's quite liberating to see an urge to drink for what it is, just an urge. I won't die if I don't have a drink, so I don't.

Im only 5 weeks sober, but thats the longest ive had since i was 16. It got to the point where the act of drinking actively destroys everything else that I want and cherish in my life. I couldn't have it both ways, it was easier to just stop for good and take it away as being a viable option.

Good luck
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Old 08-23-2015, 02:32 PM
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It can get really discouraging can't it? But, you can make sure that you stop drinking now and begin to change your life. Do you have a plan for how to stay sober?
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Old 08-23-2015, 02:53 PM
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I was the same just letting you know its possible listen to the voice that won't I

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Old 08-23-2015, 02:54 PM
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Hi.

PART of my plan was to stop drinking and instead think about NOT drinking. The obsession to drink usually does not last long. I needed to strongly want to NOT drink which helps a lot along with getting honest with myself about my drinking and accept the fact that I cannot drink one day at a time in a row in safety, mine and others.

It does get better with time so try to hang in there, you can do it.

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Old 08-23-2015, 02:56 PM
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We all had to reach that point of willingness or being ready. For me, I too became sick and tired of being sick and tired.

I made a decision to somehow change. Wasn't certain what would work or what would not, but I opened my heart and head to finding some help. I simply could not just stop without support. This changed everything.

I found SR and some f2f support. I read sober articles and reached out to communicate daily with others who where alcoholics. I prayed, began mediation and road out some cravings.

It was pretty basic, but as I started to stack a little time my plan could evolve - it still does to find that balance.

Sobriety is there for all of us - So glad you've made a decision,
Action is the key!!!

Thanks for the thread@
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Old 08-23-2015, 02:57 PM
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I felt the same way. It took two rehabs plus a court order to get me to stop. After my last withdrawal, I wrote how awful it was and look at that everyday to remind myself how much better sober feels.
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Old 08-24-2015, 09:48 AM
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Originally Posted by BringingBackB View Post
Hi crafty.

Do you have / work a plan to stay sober? I tried and failed for yeas getting a week here or there but never really committng. It has been easier this time when I made a promise to myself that I will never drink again. Now, instead of meeting cravings with fear or anger, I meet them with compassion and reason. It's quite liberating to see an urge to drink for what it is, just an urge. I won't die if I don't have a drink, so I don't.

Im only 5 weeks sober, but thats the longest ive had since i was 16. It got to the point where the act of drinking actively destroys everything else that I want and cherish in my life. I couldn't have it both ways, it was easier to just stop for good and take it away as being a viable option.

Good luck
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Thanks for replying. Well done on 5 weeks. It would be so much easier just to get that mindset and distract myself when I'm considering having a drink.
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Old 08-24-2015, 04:29 PM
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Why not join the Class of Augusts thread crafty me - lots of support there
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...rt-3-a-17.html

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Old 08-24-2015, 04:34 PM
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You can also post daily in the 24 hour recovery connections thread in daily support forum. I check in once a day to recommit to another day sober.
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Old 08-24-2015, 05:45 PM
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Only thing you can do is stop 100%. It's not easy...but it is possible. Keep close to this site. Check in, post and read several times a day, it will get easier. You can stop feeling sick and tired and fed up...start today! You will feel so much better.
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Old 08-26-2015, 01:17 PM
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[QUOTE=Dee74;5525821]Why not join the Class of Augusts thread crafty me - lots of support there


I will thanks Dee
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