He's cured!
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He's cured!
Yes, you read it here first. My ex officially no longer has any problems with alcohol (if he ever did).
Today in (mandatory) mediation he said, and his wife confirmed that he's "hardly had any alcohol" over the past year. And never at home, because his wife doesn't drink so they don't keep alcohol in their home.
So everything is dandy and I can just send our son right over and never worry about anything again, because he's cured. What a relief.
He's SO cured that any suggestion or request that he back up these assertions with some form of concrete proof of his sobriety was construed as a personal insult to him. He's SO cured that if there are any alcohol restrictions placed on his visitation, then he'd prefer not to have any visitation.
Sigh. There's 90 minutes of my life I'll never get back. At least it's out of the way. Next stop- court.
Today in (mandatory) mediation he said, and his wife confirmed that he's "hardly had any alcohol" over the past year. And never at home, because his wife doesn't drink so they don't keep alcohol in their home.
So everything is dandy and I can just send our son right over and never worry about anything again, because he's cured. What a relief.
He's SO cured that any suggestion or request that he back up these assertions with some form of concrete proof of his sobriety was construed as a personal insult to him. He's SO cured that if there are any alcohol restrictions placed on his visitation, then he'd prefer not to have any visitation.
Sigh. There's 90 minutes of my life I'll never get back. At least it's out of the way. Next stop- court.
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He's SO cured that if there are any alcohol restrictions placed on his visitation, then he'd prefer not to have any visitation.
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Originally Posted by suki44883 
That pretty much says all I'd need to hear. I'd take him up on that.
And none of his pity-party bs about how monitored sobriety is a tactic to keep him from having a relationship with our son was really credible to anyone. I've gone out of my way to make sure they have contact, so I hope it's as transparent to everyone else as it was to me.
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Cured he should write a book..hhahaha sorry... wow and to think we have all worked at this so hard for so long. well give him a pat on the back from this old lady clown. hugs to you and family Lady.. ardy
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then he'd prefer not to have any visitation.
oh.my.god. wow, really tells you where his SON rates on his personal priority scale. makes me sick to the stomach actually.
i'd sure take him up on this.
what an absolute @ss.
oh.my.god. wow, really tells you where his SON rates on his personal priority scale. makes me sick to the stomach actually.
i'd sure take him up on this.
what an absolute @ss.
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This will probably be my AH in a couple of weeks. His ex is taking him to court for violating the CO by drinking to excess in front of his kids. I'm just glad I don't have to be there or say anything. I couldn't lie to the court like he would want me to.
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It's a MIRACLE! 
Did they actually use the word, "cured"??? The "c" word? That word that doesn't exist in terms of addiction? Wow, yep, Miracle.
You are most definitely earning your halo with this whole situation (I mean, the whole aunt-wife thing alone!). They can't be taking his quacking seriously - he's so cured & cares so much he'd rather not see his son than be questioned about it or have to substantiate his claims??
((((((hugs))))) Lady, sorry they wasted your time & don't have more love & respect for DS. ((((hugs))))
Did they actually use the word, "cured"??? The "c" word? That word that doesn't exist in terms of addiction? Wow, yep, Miracle.
You are most definitely earning your halo with this whole situation (I mean, the whole aunt-wife thing alone!). They can't be taking his quacking seriously - he's so cured & cares so much he'd rather not see his son than be questioned about it or have to substantiate his claims??
((((((hugs))))) Lady, sorry they wasted your time & don't have more love & respect for DS. ((((hugs))))
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They didn't actually say "cured." It was more of an implication that his wife was able to keep him under control by not allowing alcohol in the house, and that I was somehow the cause of his excessive drinking and all the attendant issues (abuse, etc.) that went along with it.
The mediator was looking for all kinds of ways for him to substantiate his claims of sobriety, he rejected them all. Poor him, so beleaguered and insulted by the IDEA that his word (at least where alcohol is concerned) MIGHT not be trustworthy. Of course it was just me being mean and trying to keep him from our son. No wonder he drank, poor man, I'm such a monster! I pointed out that I'd gone out of my way to make sure they had visits/contact, and that if I thought I could take his word for it our son would be with him right now and I wouldn't be sitting in a roomful of lawyers literally paying money to argue about this. That got a laugh, but I think I made my point.
The mediator was looking for all kinds of ways for him to substantiate his claims of sobriety, he rejected them all. Poor him, so beleaguered and insulted by the IDEA that his word (at least where alcohol is concerned) MIGHT not be trustworthy. Of course it was just me being mean and trying to keep him from our son. No wonder he drank, poor man, I'm such a monster! I pointed out that I'd gone out of my way to make sure they had visits/contact, and that if I thought I could take his word for it our son would be with him right now and I wouldn't be sitting in a roomful of lawyers literally paying money to argue about this. That got a laugh, but I think I made my point.
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^^ that's exactly right-that's exactly why I've spent so much darn money on my legal team: because my exs word is worthless. Unfortunately, we need a room full of lawyers to keep our kids safe and enforce things the addict is not willing to do. Peace to you. Seriously, what a ****** person.
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I'm so happy for you Lady. Trudging through life with an alcoholic Ex is such a drag. Off you go then. It was lovely getting to know you, but I guess you don't need us anymore.
Before you go though, could you maybe get a little more info on this "cure". Is it possible that he watched the same episode of South Park that my XAH claimed "cured" him. Amazing! And potentially lucrative as well. Perhaps our two ex's should think about opening a treatment center in Malibu. I hear "cures" make big money there.
Before you go though, could you maybe get a little more info on this "cure". Is it possible that he watched the same episode of South Park that my XAH claimed "cured" him. Amazing! And potentially lucrative as well. Perhaps our two ex's should think about opening a treatment center in Malibu. I hear "cures" make big money there.
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