Ladywind

My ex A lives in England, I live in New Zealand. He is emailing me saying 'do you want two husbands dead'.
My first husband was killed in a car accident. This is disturbing me as I do not know if he is serious or just baiting me to reply to his emails?
I have thought of forwarding the emails on to a pastor he sees in his town or the mental health?
What would you do?

Ladywind

He has done this several times before...It is confusing to me.

DesertEyes

Hello Ladywind, and pleased to "meet" you

Goodness! It must be disturbing. Whether he is serious or not he is placing a huge responsibility on you.

That is exactly what I would do.

May I ask a question? Please forgive me if I am too forward. Is there any way you can "block" his emails, perhaps change your own? If his emails are of this nature, perhaps you can protect your own mental health by blocking him.

Mike

Liveitwell

He's trying to guilt you. He needs help but you cannot save him ! But....you can save yourself.

Ladywind

Unfortunatly I need to keep the email open as I am applying to the divorce courts to email him the divorce papers.
I have stopped replying to him as he wont accept the separation and upcoming divorce and is very abusive in his emails.
Do you think he is serious?

minime13

He is serious about trying to control and manipulate you.

This is his last-ditch effort. Don't buy into it.

DesertEyes

Oh good.

I don't think it matters whether he is serious or not. The fact that he is trying to involve you from the other side of the world is simply unacceptable. I think that you need to protect _you_ as much as possible. Reporting him to the local mental health people will place the decision of whether he is serious on _them_. They are trained in these matters, that is their job. It is not yours.

Am I making sense with that?

Mike

Ladywind

I did ring mental health in England, they sent the police over and he was all snuggled up in bed. So it was him crying wolf. Hopefully he wont pull that trick out of the bag anymore.