Jeni26

Is watching someone you love descend into alcoholism like a grief?

It feels like it. We've always been so close and gone through so much together. But this disease is coming between us. It is changing him...and me too. Sometimes I wonder if I like being me at the moment. I don't want to feel disgust and irritation towards the guy I married almost 25 years ago.

I'm trying so hard to be tolerant and understanding, to take the good times when they happen and ignore the difficult ones.

But I miss him so much.

dandylion

Jeni...to me, personally....I think it is worse.

dandylion

Dee74

I'm on the other side of this now with a good friend - he's not yet really bad, but he's circling the drain.

It must be that much more painful for you Jeni to watch this in a partner - and I'm sorry.

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redatlanta

I agree with Dandy, its worse. Preventable, doesn't have to be this way. A bad choice. Maddening, and defies all logic. They turn into another person. deteriorate. It just sucks, and I am sorry you are in this situation.

horsegirl

Hi,
There is a book I read called Transforming your losses , it is Alanon approved literature. It really helps me as I am going through the same things.

daydreamer0217

I have watched both this year as my mom passed away very quickly and the love of my life got so bad he was living on the streets, still choosing the bottle.

he is sober now, kind - of, long story. and they both suck. grief is grief. it rips your heart out and you are never the same.

sorry you have to go through this

Liveitwell

Just sending hugs-I know exactly his you feel. It's awful. I still miss the good things about my ex, a lot. It's horrible