TNTStill

Been over a month but there are still people that think that I'm BSing and backsliding because I got upset about something recently.

I'm not drinking but I still have the human emotion of getting irritated at times.

I don't have time to worry about what other people assume. I know I'm not drinking at the moment and that I'm doing what I can to maintain each day. Still hitting meeting daily and doing therapy. Both are helping and I know the changes are happening.

I'm working on distancing myself from the negative things that come my way.

Sometimes people want you to look like you not doing your best.

Whatever, day 39 right now

Dee74

It took a while for people to trust me again - in my case I totally understood it because I had been a lying SOB for a long time.

Give it time - people will respond to the new you and they will forgive forget and trust you again

nyala

Well done on nudging 40 days sober !

Isn't that evidence enough that you are doing great? It doesn't matter what anyone else says, you are doing this for you. They will work out what is going on soon enough. Good job TNT and good for you.

NestWasEmpty

TNT congrats on 39 days ! I got that too the "unbelievers" doesn't make you feel very good , all that matters is you knowing - Don't let them get to you .

Saskia

Congrats on 39 days!

Ananda

There are certain things that have to be faced when a person get sobers. You are right ... you only need to remember that YOU know .... and yes... we still get irritated, we still get estatic, we still can be sweet and we still can be a jerk...

In my family, if I'm not doing what they want or make them uncomfortable....I must be drinking. If I'm doing what they want me to and am always comfortably monotone ... I must be sober.

I understand why they would not trust me, but what I have learned is I need to distance myself from their "Opinion" and move on. It hurts, and it makes me angry, but that doesn't have to control my outlook on life and my sobriety...if that makes since.

39 days is great ... I hope there has been more nice than unpleasant moments in those 39 days If not... go out and make some happy sober moments cause that will really help a lot during the harder moments

(hug)

least

Just stay sober and keep doing the next right thing. It took me time to rebuild trust with my kids but now we have a better relationship than ever. It just takes time.

Hope2014

Great job on 39 days! I know it's easier said than done, but try not to spend your energy on negative thoughts and people that you can't change. I've been working on it too. In the past I drank when issues like that happened. Now I've figured out other ways to handle stress. Being sober doesn't mean your life will be perfect, in fact now I actually have to feel things and face them head on.
No matter what anyone says, keep your head up and stay sober.

Hevyn

39 days is wonderful, TNT. Be proud.

PurpleKnight

Day 39 is fantastic!! Keep pushing through and in time you'll silence the critics!!

Soberwolf

Congrats on 39 days bud

Cauliflower

WTG on 39!
Good for you, keep going and prove those critics wrong!

sva777

Hey don't take it personally I am over six months and I still get some people who give me the wink and nod as if they are just waiting for me to start drinking again. My wife and family know I am serious and that's what matters.

Quirky

You are doing great! 39 days is an amazing accomplishment.....don't let the turkeys get you down.

thomas11

Fantastic on the 39 days. I can relate to the trust factor, when you've depleted all the trust other had in you, it simply takes time to rebuild it, and you can't force it. Please don't let the negativity derail you from YOUR goals.