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Old 07-19-2015, 03:13 PM
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This is my first post! Over the last four years i have been drinking, heavy the last two years. I started drinking when things started going sour at work, heavy after i had to put my mother in a nursing home and a year ago she passed away. Each day i drank, it cleared my mind of my troubles and my sorrow. Being out of work each day i would wake and think about drinking, just to forget what has happened in life to me. I know it wasn't the answer but i just couldn't deal. I started avoiding my friends as i was so miserable but drunk i was happy. I would love to use alcohol as a luxury but i can't. Today is day 4 that i haven't had a sip. I hope i can continue this sober ride


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Old 07-19-2015, 03:24 PM
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Hello & welcome Whispers congrats on day 4 youl find lots of support & advice here
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Old 07-19-2015, 03:27 PM
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Welcome to the Forum Whispers!!
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Old 07-19-2015, 03:38 PM
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Welcome to the family. Four days sober is a good start to a better life. I'm glad you found us.
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Old 07-19-2015, 03:50 PM
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Close to my end story, it just took me longer to get there.

Congratulations on recognizing that the course you were on was the wrong one!

You are taking the steps to construct longer term sobriety; keep at it.

Welcome to SR.com; there's plenty of resources here to help you maintain your sobriety and a happy, serene life.
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Old 07-19-2015, 04:07 PM
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Welcome to SR whispers. You will find this to be a great support.
I am on day 4myself but used this forum to get sober before. I just chose to drink this time (dumb move).
Join our July 2015 class as many of us are starting this journey and we can support each other.
Looking forward to connecting
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Old 07-19-2015, 04:11 PM
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4 days is great, Whispers! I'm so glad you joined us. You're never alone.
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Old 07-19-2015, 04:13 PM
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Welcome to the July 2015 class!

4 days is a great start. SR is here for you, use and draw on the power here.
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Old 07-19-2015, 04:33 PM
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Im going to try my best, one day at a time! I quit smoking 4 months ago, now its time to take control of my life again. Drinking is fun but it didnt lead me to anyplace good. The bottom of that bottle didnt have any answers for me.
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Old 07-19-2015, 04:48 PM
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Originally Posted by Whispersny View Post
The bottom of that bottle didnt have any answers for me.
I love that statement. I'll keep that one in mind.

What I found at the bottom of each bottle of vodka I emptied was desperation, depression, suicidal thoughts, anxiety, avoidance, financial failure, and lies. Lots and lots of lies.

Welcome to SR. Congrats on dropping the cigs. And congrats on saying enough with alcohol. And especially congrats to 4 days off!!

It's easier if you just do instead of try. Do everything you can. Posting here is a great example of doing.

I'm 90days sober today. After a couple years of being an all day drunk. Which followed a couple years of heavy daily drinking, and so forth.

PM me any time.
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Old 07-19-2015, 05:33 PM
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Welcome whispersny

I'm sorry for your loss.

I drank to forget stuff too but the most I ever did was to push some stuff to the side for a few hours.

I'm glad you found us - congrats on day 4
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Old 07-19-2015, 07:41 PM
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Thank you dee, sometimes such a mess gets created that we go in that "f-it" stage. I was there, it was my friend through tough times, the toxic friend
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Old 07-19-2015, 07:49 PM
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Hello Whispers, congrats on day 4! Hope this finds you fine.
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Old 07-20-2015, 10:18 PM
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One day at a time me, a few times today i wanted to go grab a drink. But its never just 1
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Old 07-20-2015, 10:32 PM
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Welcome Whispers! So happy to have you here.
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Old 07-20-2015, 10:35 PM
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I just walked out of Rehab today after 2 days. It was a hell of a place. Sober Recovery has done so much more for me, than anything. Keep coming back, and visiting and posting daily if you are able.
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Old 07-20-2015, 10:45 PM
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Originally Posted by Whispersny View Post
One day at a time me, a few times today i wanted to go grab a drink. But its never just 1
Congrats on making the decision to not take that first drink today no matter what. You're on the right track, Whispersny.
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Old 07-20-2015, 10:46 PM
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Let me add my welcome. In your posts you say your life was unhappy but drinking was fun. Can you look objectively at it? Do you really think the drinking was fun when you include the cost, the consequences and the hangovers? If I look back over my life over the past year, which was mostly sober, the fun times and the happy times were when I was sober, not drunk.
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Old 07-21-2015, 05:39 AM
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Welcome to SR, whispers. Congrats on day 4. I too like the "there are no answers in the bottom of the bottle". Nice. And so true.
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Old 07-21-2015, 05:44 AM
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Welcome to SR!
Keep posting, and join the July recovery group. You will find many people who you will relate with, who are going through the same things you are. You can do it!
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