Overly sensitive?
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Overly sensitive?
H seems to be in mid-binge.
He has drunk for over 24 hours with a little break in the middle to sleep. He has been taunting and goading me today. I haven't bitten back but have kept in texting contact with a lady I met at AlAnon who has been really helpful.
She says, don't take it personally because it's onlt the drink, but WTF? He is deliberately taking my most sensitive issues and trampling all over them, and involving the kids too.
How can I not take that personally?. He is currently unconscious sitting out in the garden.
Since his relapse, he is becoming someone I don't even like.
He has drunk for over 24 hours with a little break in the middle to sleep. He has been taunting and goading me today. I haven't bitten back but have kept in texting contact with a lady I met at AlAnon who has been really helpful.
She says, don't take it personally because it's onlt the drink, but WTF? He is deliberately taking my most sensitive issues and trampling all over them, and involving the kids too.
How can I not take that personally?. He is currently unconscious sitting out in the garden.
Since his relapse, he is becoming someone I don't even like.
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It is very difficult to not take it personally...because it does feel very personal at the time doesn't it?
But he probably won't even remember when he sobers up.
That is no excuse of coarse but it is you that is then left with the hurt and set at what he said.
I too have an AH that at times I really do not like.....during the day he is kind, caring, helpful, lovely wants to do the best for his family.......at night when the drinking starts by clockwork at 6.30pm every night 365 nights a year he turns into a person I do not want to be around.
with the help of SR and Al Anon I am making progress......slowly but surely and one I am getting very good at leaving his drunken chaos to him.....it takes practice but it really works.
Sorry I don't know your story but I would recommend Al Anon or some other recovery for you.
Leave his journey to him, and look after you first and foremost.
Take care and I am sorry for what you are going through.
Take care Phiz
But he probably won't even remember when he sobers up.
That is no excuse of coarse but it is you that is then left with the hurt and set at what he said.
I too have an AH that at times I really do not like.....during the day he is kind, caring, helpful, lovely wants to do the best for his family.......at night when the drinking starts by clockwork at 6.30pm every night 365 nights a year he turns into a person I do not want to be around.
with the help of SR and Al Anon I am making progress......slowly but surely and one I am getting very good at leaving his drunken chaos to him.....it takes practice but it really works.
Sorry I don't know your story but I would recommend Al Anon or some other recovery for you.
Leave his journey to him, and look after you first and foremost.
Take care and I am sorry for what you are going through.
Take care Phiz
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