Kiddo's g/f--more drama
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Kiddo's g/f--more drama
So his dad called last night to tell me she "took off" again. I've been carrying the phone in case anyone calls, but hadn't heard anything, so I texted my son this morning. Apparently her dad told her he'd filed a missing persons report, so she flew out of state and is staying at a hotel and driving a rental car. My son's talked to her a few times. Sounds like she'd just trying to "escape" from life in general, not eating (or, rather, eating and purging), and says she will be back in a few days.
Son didn't want to talk, but I told him to call me if he did, and suggested he talk to SOMEBODY--a friend, or even to drop into an Al-Anon meeting.
So prayers and good thoughts for him and his g/f would be appreciated. G/f suffers from an eating disorder and is going through some other emotional stuff with mom terminally ill and pressures at work. She's been accepted to an outpatient program but hasn't gone yet.
Ugh. Not much I can do, other than what I am doing. I feel bad for his dad, who takes things much more to heart than I do, and is dealing with other emotional stuff right now, as well.
Son didn't want to talk, but I told him to call me if he did, and suggested he talk to SOMEBODY--a friend, or even to drop into an Al-Anon meeting.
So prayers and good thoughts for him and his g/f would be appreciated. G/f suffers from an eating disorder and is going through some other emotional stuff with mom terminally ill and pressures at work. She's been accepted to an outpatient program but hasn't gone yet.
Ugh. Not much I can do, other than what I am doing. I feel bad for his dad, who takes things much more to heart than I do, and is dealing with other emotional stuff right now, as well.
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Wow, I'm sorry your son (and all of you), are going thru this. There's nothing worse than the waiting.
When does the outpatient program begin? Is she trying to avoid it?
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When does the outpatient program begin? Is she trying to avoid it?
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I don't know--about all I know about any of this is what my son has said in text messages (we had a short phone call the day they adopted the cat and didn't get into the details--he was in the store and she was there), and what his dad has told me. I asked if she was afraid of the outpatient program and he never really answered that. She's applied for FMLA leave, but has to see the therapist before that kicks in.
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I feel sort of guilty now, I shouldn't have referred to this young woman's problems as "drama." Eating disorders are every bit as destructive as any other addiction. I was trying to be quick in conveying that there were more problems/crisis and used a poor choice of words. I don't think she is being self-indulgent (which is what "drama" sort of implies). I'm just worried about her and all of them.
*sigh*
*sigh*
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No news today. Thanks for the good thoughts, everyone. I'll post when I hear something.
I did check with his dad yesterday, and Dad was out hiking (something he loves). I told him not to overdo it, and his reply, "Who, me?" with a crooked-smiley was reassuring. It kind of feels like everybody is falling apart over there--sort of like when everybody in a household gets sick at the same time. It's tough when everyone seems to be having their own crisis. It has me looking over MY shoulder to see what might be sneaking up on me.
I did check with his dad yesterday, and Dad was out hiking (something he loves). I told him not to overdo it, and his reply, "Who, me?" with a crooked-smiley was reassuring. It kind of feels like everybody is falling apart over there--sort of like when everybody in a household gets sick at the same time. It's tough when everyone seems to be having their own crisis. It has me looking over MY shoulder to see what might be sneaking up on me.
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Me, too--still no word apparently. I just called my dad and I can't tell him any of this crap. He's 87 and doesn't need to hear about stuff like this. I just told him everyone's "fine."
Ugh.
Ugh.
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