Need Support
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Thread Starter
Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: Down South
Posts: 15
Need Support
I am back after another several months of trying to moderate/control my drinking.
I have failed and somehow need to figure out how to let it go completely.
I am scared, it seems impossible but I have seen so many people do it with the right support.
I am happy to be here today.
I have failed and somehow need to figure out how to let it go completely.
I am scared, it seems impossible but I have seen so many people do it with the right support.
I am happy to be here today.
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,386
Hi and welcome back Shelby 
a good plan is really important I think - it's a great place to start.
There are some really good suggestions here
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...at-we-did.html
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a good plan is really important I think - it's a great place to start.
There are some really good suggestions here
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...at-we-did.html
D
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: UK
Posts: 2,937
For me it was one day at a time.
I woke up everyday and said 'today I am not drinking'.
If something happened that led me to want a drink, I said 'I won't drink today, but tomorrow if things are still so bad and I want to drink, I will'.
Nothing was ever so bad that I needed to drink the next day and here I am with over 3 years of no alcohol.
As for moderating, I think it is torture.
I would rather have zero drinks than 1 drink.
What is 1 drink really going to achieve?
For me nothing apart from leaving me wanting another drink.
I wish you the best xx
I woke up everyday and said 'today I am not drinking'.
If something happened that led me to want a drink, I said 'I won't drink today, but tomorrow if things are still so bad and I want to drink, I will'.
Nothing was ever so bad that I needed to drink the next day and here I am with over 3 years of no alcohol.
As for moderating, I think it is torture.
I would rather have zero drinks than 1 drink.
What is 1 drink really going to achieve?
For me nothing apart from leaving me wanting another drink.
I wish you the best xx
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Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: C.C. Ma.
Posts: 3,697
Hi and welcome to what can be the beginning of a life many dream about.
The bottom line is we just don’t have the first drink one day at a time in a row. Simple but not easy and that is where the outside support is needed even if we don’t want to pursue it for various reasons which will keep us getting progressively worse. There are quite a few programs, including this site, which will help as long as we CONTINUE to make sobriety our #1 daily goal.
Many failures happen because we forget the pain and misery that occurred before our sober period and the power alcohol has on our life. This can be avoided with work and change which mends the reasons we drank. I call it living on lifes terms, not saying I always like it.
KEEP COMING AND BE WELL
The bottom line is we just don’t have the first drink one day at a time in a row. Simple but not easy and that is where the outside support is needed even if we don’t want to pursue it for various reasons which will keep us getting progressively worse. There are quite a few programs, including this site, which will help as long as we CONTINUE to make sobriety our #1 daily goal.
Many failures happen because we forget the pain and misery that occurred before our sober period and the power alcohol has on our life. This can be avoided with work and change which mends the reasons we drank. I call it living on lifes terms, not saying I always like it.
KEEP COMING AND BE WELL
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Thread Starter
Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: Down South
Posts: 15
Thank you all for the support, I am ready for Day 2.
Feeling rested without a hangover feels great, I had some very strange dreams, some very disturbing.
But I am guessing that is to be expected.
Feeling rested without a hangover feels great, I had some very strange dreams, some very disturbing.
But I am guessing that is to be expected.
Member
Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: Houston TX
Posts: 55
Shelby you are not alone. I tried to moderately drink too. I would try to cut back to only drink more. I am one of those who cant have one glass-I have to drink the whole big bottle of wine. My low point was Friday when I drank two big bottles plus vodka.
I am three days on my first real attempt to get sober. We can ride this roller coaster together.
I am three days on my first real attempt to get sober. We can ride this roller coaster together.
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Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: PA
Posts: 588
Shelby, the dreams suck, but waking up and not hating the idea of being awake gets fun after a while! I woke up 90 minutes before my alarm the other morning, and hitting the snooze button once felt more like a vacation than a necessity. All the good things people say about quitting - they are true. Just the same way that my mom suddenly got smart about the time I turned 18. She was so dumb before that, then she suddenly started being right....
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