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Hey everyone. I wanted to introduce myself. I have come to the realization that I have a problem. I don't drink everyday, but when I do it's really bad. I drink so much, so fast that I have blackouts. I have been verbally abusive to my family during such episodes and I don't even remember what I said. I'm pretty sure that I'm standing on the precipice of losing my family if I don't stop. I want to stop. I'm really sick of the beat down that drinking brings me. I need help!
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welcome to SR. This is a great place for support in quitting. Have you tried stopping before? I recommend a plan. How are you going to deal with situations/people/places/things that usually you drink about.
Read around for tips. Good to have you.
Read around for tips. Good to have you.
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Thanks for the responses. I have an appointment with my mental health provider at the VA. I am also kicking around the idea of going to an AA meeting tonight. The thought terrifies me because I don't like to about all the horrible things I've done. I just want to move forward. I don't think dwelling about all that stuff is the most productive way to get better. Just my opinion.
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Welcome!
I think it's a fine line between dwelling on the messes we made and accepting what we did and learning from it. Moving on with knowledge we learned is great. You will find lots of support here.
I think it's a fine line between dwelling on the messes we made and accepting what we did and learning from it. Moving on with knowledge we learned is great. You will find lots of support here.
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Welcome to the family. 
It's good you want to stop drinking. Getting sober is the best thing I've ever done for myself.
A good AA meeting is focused on the solution, not rehashing war stories. Try different meetings til you find one you like.
There's lots of support here. I hope we can help you get sober for good.
It's good you want to stop drinking. Getting sober is the best thing I've ever done for myself. A good AA meeting is focused on the solution, not rehashing war stories. Try different meetings til you find one you like.
There's lots of support here. I hope we can help you get sober for good.
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Originally Posted by VexedEnuff 
Hey everyone. I wanted to introduce myself. I have come to the realization that I have a problem. I don't drink everyday, but when I do it's really bad. I drink so much, so fast that I have blackouts. I have been verbally abusive to my family during such episodes and I don't even remember what I said. I'm pretty sure that I'm standing on the precipice of losing my family if I don't stop. I want to stop. I'm really sick of the beat down that drinking brings me. I need help!
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Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: Gatineau, QC, CA
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Welcome to SR!
Why not try AA if it can help? I have been to a few meetings and the folks were very welcoming.
There are other options as well, AVRT, Urge surfing techniques, Smart recovery.
SR is my main support system personally. Glad you joined us ;-)
Why not try AA if it can help? I have been to a few meetings and the folks were very welcoming.
There are other options as well, AVRT, Urge surfing techniques, Smart recovery.
SR is my main support system personally. Glad you joined us ;-)
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It's great to meet you Vexed. Glad you wanted to talk things over.
Alcohol abuse turned me into someone I didn't recognize. Every time I picked up, my personality changed. I was confrontational - the exact opposite of the way I really am. The only way I could avoid putting myself in danger was to stop all together. I spent many years trying to control it - attempting to make it be fun and relaxing. For me, social drinking was no longer a possibility. It feels wonderful to be free of it.
Alcohol abuse turned me into someone I didn't recognize. Every time I picked up, my personality changed. I was confrontational - the exact opposite of the way I really am. The only way I could avoid putting myself in danger was to stop all together. I spent many years trying to control it - attempting to make it be fun and relaxing. For me, social drinking was no longer a possibility. It feels wonderful to be free of it.
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Originally Posted by Hevyn
It's great to meet you Vexed. Glad you wanted to talk things over.
Alcohol abuse turned me into someone I didn't recognize. Every time I picked up, my personality changed. I was confrontational - the exact opposite of the way I really am. The only way I could avoid putting myself in danger was to stop all together. I spent many years trying to control it - attempting to make it be fun and relaxing. For me, social drinking was no longer a possibility. It feels wonderful to be free of it.
Alcohol abuse turned me into someone I didn't recognize. Every time I picked up, my personality changed. I was confrontational - the exact opposite of the way I really am. The only way I could avoid putting myself in danger was to stop all together. I spent many years trying to control it - attempting to make it be fun and relaxing. For me, social drinking was no longer a possibility. It feels wonderful to be free of it.
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Join Date: Jan 2015
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Welcome Vexed. Your pattern of drinking sounds very familiar to me. So does the agression in the blackout. There is a way out though, but it requires complete abstinence. No half measures like moderation.
It's good to have you. Stay around and you will find a lot of wisdom and encouragement.
Good luck on your journey.
It's good to have you. Stay around and you will find a lot of wisdom and encouragement.
Good luck on your journey.
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