periwinkle123

While my husband sits in jail the past two months (& doing MUCH better. He himself is glad he was arrested, & this recovery has been a lot different than times he "quit" on his own. But yea yea, easy to be clean when you're locked up), it was peaceful for a little while. Then my sister in laws husband started stealing from our business office (cell phones, electronics) to support his own habit. Him and my sister in law (husbands sister) ended up arrested about a month ago. According to her they took her in because they found his stuff in the house (probation) and said since they live together they're both arrested. That made no sense to me at the time, since I hadn't been arrested when probation found my husbands stuff, but I fell for it and bailed her out and thought we were in similar positions. Turned out she's was using with him this whole time, too. And chance after chance has taken advantage of me for money, help, etc. I am so sick of having any type of addiction or addict in my life. I'm so sick of having to be wary of people, and to have to now harden my naive little kind helpful heart because people will take advantage of it. It's so crazy how believable and convincing addicts can be!
This is just a rant/update I guess, not much point.. But that's my check-in of the month.

JOIE12

thanks PERIWINKLE

true emotion, it's exhausting to have to protect ourselves from this affecting our lives but once we feel this - it helps each time it presents itself. Eventually we can see it coming and avoid the heartache and loss.

best wishes to you and hugs
Joie

hopeful4

Ugh. How awful.

If you did put yourself on the line for her bail, you can go explain, and have it revoked. I would not want my name or money on the line for an addict.

Many prayers for you.

Jorgenss

Periwinkle

Thank you for sharing. It is exhausting when you have to guard yourself against addiction and the manipulation that presents itself.

Hugs to you today!

zoso77

Two words.

Ice Them.

We only put up with things we choose to put up with. If you don't want to put up with nonsense, don't. It's that simple.

periwinkle123

Yep. Last week she pretended to be her mom (my MIL) over text on her phone, and asked me for $140 for "bills". Then came to "pick it up for her". Found out a couple days ago. That was the last straw for me. I blocked her on my phone and all social media. It was a good reminder that you can't help an addict no matter how much you want to. They can only help themselves.