Character defects are like weeds..
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Character defects are like weeds..
We can weed wack (or weed eat) them down, but they still have their roots. I still face my character defects although I am healing and happier than ever. My character defects are among the urge to control, cure, change, help, cling, heal others, manipulate, worry, etc etc. I'm learning to repress the urges a little better than before. Each day gets a little better. But they are still there, those darn defects. "Expel the obsession to control." That's just it. Things are always going to be beyond my control. And I'm doing a lot better with leaving things be. I'm preoccupied with healthy behavior!
UPDATE ON MY LIFE FOR THOSE WHO KNOW ME AROUND HERE:
Officially went no contact as of May 17 with exAbf.. SUCCESSFULLY. I have took some time off work to spend time catching my bearings, healing, and spending time with family back home at my parents. I go back Friday! So blessed to realize that things are beautifully different with my attitude and perspective. Not so emotionally drained anymore!
UPDATE ON MY LIFE FOR THOSE WHO KNOW ME AROUND HERE:
Officially went no contact as of May 17 with exAbf.. SUCCESSFULLY. I have took some time off work to spend time catching my bearings, healing, and spending time with family back home at my parents. I go back Friday! So blessed to realize that things are beautifully different with my attitude and perspective. Not so emotionally drained anymore!
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I love the update! Sounds like you are on track!
And weeds....yes. I find that I can get my life completely back on track and then BOOM! I meet someone who brings all my nonsense back to the surface. I was just thinking about this actually... how I'll be strong, know what I want, say NO a thousand times for all the right reasons and then when I finally say yes and let myself feel, I find yet again, the same situation.... and then here comes my codie nonsense again. This time around, though, like you, I am doing better at it! :-D
And weeds....yes. I find that I can get my life completely back on track and then BOOM! I meet someone who brings all my nonsense back to the surface. I was just thinking about this actually... how I'll be strong, know what I want, say NO a thousand times for all the right reasons and then when I finally say yes and let myself feel, I find yet again, the same situation.... and then here comes my codie nonsense again. This time around, though, like you, I am doing better at it! :-D
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