alonnow1

Here is my situation that I am currently experiencing. I finally got the courage to leave my mentally abusive alcoholic live in boyfriend x11 years. I fell for an RA x4.5 years. I moved in with him. In less than 2 months, he started having warning signs of relapse. He has been in and out of treatment for the last 5 months. I had to leave him and move right back in with the functional Archie Bunker drunk. I have an eviction on my record with him so I haven't been able to secure my own apartment. I decided the only way to get out of this toxic relationship was to finish college so I can earn enough to live on my own. I am a senior now,full time,honor roll,etc. I have an internship starting this summer and it's paid-but will only be temporary income till I go back this fall. I guess my point is, don't make my mistake-any kind of alcoholic is not the kind of person to ally yourself with. I chose someone who was the polar opposite of my live in boyfriend x 11 years as far as I could tell. An RA is prone to relapse, and may or may not be there for you emotionally when you need them most.

Chrissy2014

I'm sorry you went through those difficult times in your life. There is redemption in recovery - don't write us all off😀. Also, there is a friends and family section of this site which may be more helpful to you. I wish you well.

Dee74

Welcome alonnow1

I think a lot of us tend to fall for the same kind of people - somtimes it's subconscious.

My 'picker' got a lot better when I worked on myself and started valuing myself. Sounds like yours will be too

I really hope you'll be able to find a way to move out sometimes soon.

Keep an eye out at college...there maybe other mature students (or sober non partying younger students) who need a roomie?

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PurpleKnight

Welcome to the Forum!!