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Old 05-23-2015, 04:07 AM
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This waiting game for ABF to see GP & Detox team is hard. He is having mood swings & getting aggressive (not towards me).
Lost his confidence to get put of house - we are both visually impaired but he has lived with it for longer but I have had to adapt - I travel all over and am trying to get to work and volunteering.

I am worried, his family is worried too - his mum has threatened to take him to hers - this would make it worse as his has a history of withdrawal seizures.

I want to scream and hold him m close se.
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Old 05-23-2015, 04:34 AM
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Does your boyfriend already have an appointment or are you just waiting to hear from the office about when it will be?

I'm sorry for the waiting...is there music or movies or audio books that might take your minds off of the wait?
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Old 05-23-2015, 07:08 AM
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2nd July is the appointment with Detox nurse..
I am able to keep busy thankfully but ABF is struggling.
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Old 05-23-2015, 11:50 AM
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[QUOTE2nd July is the appointment with Detox nurse.. ][/QUOTE]

He should call and say he can't wait that long, they must take him sooner. Alcoholism is a life and death disease and it's much too long to wait.
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Unfortunately due to poor funding. That's the nearest appt locally.
We know it's life threatening...
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Old 05-23-2015, 01:38 PM
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is he still drinking? is he making ANY type of effort to stop or cut down at all?
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Old 05-24-2015, 08:17 AM
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He had done up to last week. He reduced to 6 cans but up to 8.
He went to a relapse prevention group snd wss full of crack addicts wh were smelly & off their pickle. So had to shower etc but got a little stressrd.
Drinks wine very occasionally now.
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Old 05-24-2015, 08:31 AM
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Aren't all addicts "off their pickle"?

How about AA or some other type 12 step for the time being?
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Old 05-24-2015, 11:11 AM
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He tried SMART but was cancelled. AA is a liittle bit difficult as we are both blind - he has lost his confidence to travel to new places. Relying on a cab @ £15 a trip - he can't justify that.
Tried saying that he would save that cutting down to 4 a day.
Am letting it go - am worried but not my circus.
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Old 05-24-2015, 01:19 PM
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Plenty of AA members would be HAPPY to offer him a ride if he went to a meeting and said he needed one. It's part of their 12th-Step work (carrying the message). Plus it would give him personal connections to some of those people.

If he needs a ride to his first meeting he just needs to call the AA Intergroup (or whatever they call it there--the main local number) and say so. More than likely they will send someone to come get him.
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Old 05-26-2015, 06:31 AM
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It seems like he is using his disability as an excuse.
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Old 05-26-2015, 07:15 AM
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He always has a reason he can't taper or get to meetings Catareta

Please look through your old posts.

At what point will you stop being his caretaker and let him figure it out on his own?

That's what it took for me to make recovery stick

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Old 05-26-2015, 07:38 AM
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I know that it's his life but I am far from okay - I admit I am binge eating again & getting annoyed with it.
I do love him but I am the one that lives with this 24hrs - his family aren't that helpful. Wish it would bugger off lol.

Suppose some boundaries financially may help & leave him to it.
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Old 05-26-2015, 12:34 PM
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It seems like he is using his disability as an excuse.
Yup, we have folks who show up at AA meetings with wheelchairs, walkers, oxygen tanks and, yes, white canes. They are often transported by fellow AA members. If he wants to get well, he can.
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