Tc4ever

Hi everyone.. I'm on day 36 and besides around day 3 I haven't had any cravings. The thing is my irritability is out of control. I'm not sure if that has to do with being tired a lot still or not. This is driving me crazy and could really use some advice on this.
Thanks
TC

Anna

Congratulations on 36 days sober!

I had a lot of irritability, even anger, when I stopped drinking. I think I was frustrated with myself and the situation I'd gotten myself into, and the fact that my family just expected me to get better. I think this is when you have to dig deep and connect with the inner strength that you have to be able to deal with this.

Journaling helped me a lot, as did long walks and lots of good music.

Tc4ever

Thanks a lot Anna. I also have a lot of anger too. I feel like i'm short with everyone, If my internet is slow, if a car in front of me isn't going fast enough etc.

PurpleKnight

Day 36 is fantastic!!

Yeah for me it took time to adjust, not only physically, but mentally and emotionally.

Hang in there, it will get better!!

Tc4ever

The support here is so overwhelming. I'm so choked up. Must be the lack of drama in my post.. Thanks Anna and purple knight for your input. I do appreciate it...
TC

On The Road

I'm at 5 months and just had an argument with my wife over taking my son to a pizza party, for christ's sake! No reason to be irritable. Just am today.

Hevyn

Hi Tc. I definitely was irritable & edgy the first few months. I was filled with resentment and disappointment in myself. I was mad that I'd embarrassed myself and caused so many problems just by being sloppy and numb. Eventually the joy of being free took over. I knew I was never going to put myself in that position ever again, & I would have to accept my past and rise above it.

Be kind and patient with yourself Tc - you've made a huge change in your life. Adjusting to the new you will take a little more than 36 days. We're proud of you.

Dee74

I felt a lot of irritability too and anger and rage.

A gratitude list really helped me - write down the good stuff.

It may seem like the last thing you want to do, but after a few days I sensed a change in me.

I also got into exercise, and started volunteering in my community too.

I had to get out of my head - it was all me me me and silly resentments and grudges, lashing out...

It will get better TC

D

Hevyn

Yes - getting out of our heads is key - that's always been my biggest problem.

MidnightBlue

Hi, Tc4Ever.

In early sobriety (36 days is great, but still early) my emotions were all over the place - as if everything I had been suppressing and numbing with wine bounced back with vengeance.

But with due time emotions straightened out and my emotional state became much better.

I also started meditating and it helped a lot.

Keep up sobriety, and eventually emotions will fall in place too!

IOAA2

Hi.
Stopping drinking is a great achievement that can be very rewarding for life.
Many in recovery have to move forward and work and change the reasons we drank. They include Our feelings including anger, control issues, loneliness, low self esteem and on and on.
It’s an on going job of progress which can become turn us into people we want to be.
For many just stopping drinking was just slightly below the level in terms of misery than drinking.

BE WELL

least

Emotions are often all over the place in early recovery. Give yourself time, rest, good food, and some exercise. The longer you stay sober, the better you'll feel.