Nicklin

Hello:
I am new to this site and just looking to connect with others with similar situations.
Ii am the husband of an alcoholic. Married for only two years. I found about about her alcoholism only one week after the wedding. it was well concealed from me by many.
I have stood by and supported her since learning of her addiction and have had some success.
Unfortunately, she keeps re-lapsing over and over.
She continues to deny and lie about this to everyone.
She claims she is recovered to family and friends (only the ones that know)
I am at my wits end, and really just want to know if it is time to remove her from the house, and have her return only when she is sober?
or to continue to support and give her another opportunity to recover?

PurpleKnight

Welcome to the Forum Nicklin!!

Soberwolf

Welcome Nicklin youl find tons of support & advice here & in this link im including

Nice to meet you Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

saoutchik

Hi nicking,

Sorry to hear about your wife. Unfortunately us alcoholics can often try to deceive others in the process of deceiving ourselves.

As Soberwolf posted the "Friends and Family" thread should provide some help from people enduring the same thing

saoutchik

Nickling! (Autocorrect )

Dee74

Hi and welcome Nicklin - I'm sorry for your situation but I know you'll find a lot of support here

It's an impossible question you've raised but others have been through it.
Does you wife know you're thinking about asking her to leave?

D

least

Welcome to the family! I hope you can find some support for yourself.

huntingtontx

I am married to an alcoholic. I don't nag, as I know it has to be his choice to be sober. Till he makes that choice, nothing I do or say will really matter. I have been sober for a while, and I guess it is different for everyone. I will stay with my hubby and love and support him as long as I am able. I have to be okay with the fact that I am his second love. He has to have his drinks. He is home most of the time. Retired. We can't do much because he has to get home to drink. I do a lot on my own now. I wish he would quit, but like I said, it has to be his choice. I am sure a lot of others will chime in. It is in the end your choice. Good luck and God bless.

thomas11

I would never offer anyone marital advice as I think it is somewhat sacred ground. I will share with you that honesty is a quality thanks ranks very high with myself and usually most people, and it sounds as if there is a fair amount of dishonesty going on. Hoping for the best for you.