CharlesG

Having a rough day again, and just want a little strength and support from you guys. Working on being positive. Positive thoughts only. Thank you guys!!

OnMyWay7

Hi Charles - Sorry to hear about being separated but hang in there
I read a book called "Contagious Optimism" it was actually pretty great as I was having relationship issues along with trying to get sober.

We're here for you dude.

Dee74

I'm sorry Charles but hang in there...drinking would only make things worse right?

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Soberwolf

^^^^^^^^^^

Anna

Hi Charles,

I'm sorry you're going through a rough time.

FreeOwl

I've been there....

In particular, I've been on the "so. I'm pretty much separated right now".

Twice.

It sucks - but life these days is much much better.

Where to go? I suggest a walk. Preferably in a wild, wooded area or by a lake or the sea.... let nature speak with you.... speak back, from the heart.

That always helped me.

Hevyn

I'm very sorry you're down Charles. Remember, you have many friends here who are rooting for you & will always be here for you.

Bailey3

I've been there too Charles. Drinking won't help. It will only prolong the hurt and, probably make it worse.

I agree with FreeOwl. Get outside. Go for a walk. Don't let the walls close in on you.

CharlesG

Thanks! Buying a suit with my friend then signing up for royalties on a album that's soon to come out! Still in contact with her which is good and bad for either way it goes. If it ends on a cool note it's cool but if it's negative i get fully sucked into that. But true, drinking only makes it worse, same with smoking.
I have a show tomorrow night, and i'm DJing at it so all the fun around me i'm sure will be tempting but I assure you guys I know what drinking and smoking does for me. And that's nothing, but make me not care about what maybe I should spend some time caring about lol.
I think everything's gonna be ok, which is an understatement. It's just hard being negative about yourself and the one you love! I am vowing to stay positive about myself and the situation. It's kind of embarressing to be back at my mom's house, and have her ask about us.. Pride is def something to deal with. It's tough to be told things about your partner you didnt know with it being meant to hurt you. Life is tough intentionally though right? Have to be strong.
Thank you SR. Love all of you.

LBrain

Look at this as an opportunity to give yourself 100% of the attention you need.

Sometimes we need time just for ourselves. Take advantage of it.

Hevyn

Charles, You are so right to acknowledge the negative drama that drinking causes. There's nothing in it for us anymore. I fought so hard to not let go of it, but I knew it would never lead to a good time ever again - only regret & misery.

I hope it's a good night for you Charles. You're doing this.

CharlesG

I will. And also give her time and not blow her phone up with texts as I am accustomed to doing. Stick with me guys, I have a lot of free time on my hands now. As I guess I always did.. Nothing's changed besides my rock not wanting much to do with me now. I really hope her the best and us to both heal with the time apart. I love her so much, it's def giving me that **** it vibe a little bit. I won't crack, memories of times that I did crack and made **** much worse between us. Thanks for the advice.

CharlesG

Thanks! Really this means a lot in a very hard time for me!

Della1968

Hi I am sorry I have been there and it sucks. I do have to say if I were in a relationship I know I wouldn't have worked as hard on my recovery as I did.

canguy

Charles,

Google 'the 180'

It helps.

All the best....

LBrain

canguy, "the 180" is fantastic!!!!!!!!

I think it could also work for those 'romanticizing' alcohol...

good stuff!

AliWProk

Welcome, CharlesG! Sorry about the circumstances. You sound good tonight. I hope you're taking good care of yourself. Big hug to you!

SereneEdition

How are you doing today?

Hevyn

I was thinking of you too Charles.

JT0626

Sending you cyber hugs, Charles.