need advice and life experience please
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Hi, welcome to SR. You're right to be concerned, but your situation isn't hopeless. Try to talk to the medical people looking after you as honestly as you can. They're there to help, not judge and they'll respect you for being truthful.
Can you get away from your usual place for a short time to break the cycle? Maybe a relative or somewhere where people don't drink? Make sure you have no alcohol in the house, and enlist the support of your partner not to bring any home.
Are you in difficult circumstances where you don't have enough support? Once again, talk to your midwife or doctor and they will help you.
You can come here any time for support without judgement.
Can you get away from your usual place for a short time to break the cycle? Maybe a relative or somewhere where people don't drink? Make sure you have no alcohol in the house, and enlist the support of your partner not to bring any home.
Are you in difficult circumstances where you don't have enough support? Once again, talk to your midwife or doctor and they will help you.
You can come here any time for support without judgement.
Sobriety is Traditional
Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Orcas Island, Washington
Posts: 9,066
Welcome!
You're never alone here!
You will peobably find some helpful information in the "Women in Recovery" section, although other forums do not get as many responses as "Newcomers."-
You're never alone here!
You will peobably find some helpful information in the "Women in Recovery" section, although other forums do not get as many responses as "Newcomers."-
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Hey ntbh
As a guy, obviously I dont have direct experience but I do attend AA. In the rooms, I have heard women share their stories about drinking and pregnancy. Addiction is a tough battle. I would presume you are feeling ashamed as convention dictates that one shouldnt be drinking whilst pregnant. Well, convention makes most alcoholics ashamed if they allow themselves to be judged by it ! Certainly, alcohol will affect the baby so its preferable that one abstains. Easily abided by a non-alcoholic. I would follow Dee's suggestion and see a doctor. Find a good, understanding doctor who you feel comfortable to confide in. Also, try out the support resources such as AA, AVRT, etc to get help through this tough time.
SR is always here and as FeelingGreat says, please feel safe to post here. We only wish to give support and non-judgemental advice.
As a guy, obviously I dont have direct experience but I do attend AA. In the rooms, I have heard women share their stories about drinking and pregnancy. Addiction is a tough battle. I would presume you are feeling ashamed as convention dictates that one shouldnt be drinking whilst pregnant. Well, convention makes most alcoholics ashamed if they allow themselves to be judged by it ! Certainly, alcohol will affect the baby so its preferable that one abstains. Easily abided by a non-alcoholic. I would follow Dee's suggestion and see a doctor. Find a good, understanding doctor who you feel comfortable to confide in. Also, try out the support resources such as AA, AVRT, etc to get help through this tough time.
SR is always here and as FeelingGreat says, please feel safe to post here. We only wish to give support and non-judgemental advice.
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Join Date: Mar 2015
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Hello there. Welcome to SR!
Wherever you are, you and your baby will need helpful and loving support. I have an alcohol addiction and two children, but I never had an addiction (or any type of alcohol intake while pregnant) so I cannot offer much perspective. Perhaps other moms can offer insight or experience.
I cannot imagine that you want to continue drinking, or you would not have posted here. Please do whatever it takes to get you and your baby healthy. You came to a great place; you are bound to get a lot of advice here at SR.
I watched this video about birth mothers and adoptive mothers and their children with FASD. The video is geared toward mothers who are struggling during pregnancy. Some of the stories are heartbreaking.
Wherever you are, you and your baby will need helpful and loving support. I have an alcohol addiction and two children, but I never had an addiction (or any type of alcohol intake while pregnant) so I cannot offer much perspective. Perhaps other moms can offer insight or experience.
I cannot imagine that you want to continue drinking, or you would not have posted here. Please do whatever it takes to get you and your baby healthy. You came to a great place; you are bound to get a lot of advice here at SR.
I watched this video about birth mothers and adoptive mothers and their children with FASD. The video is geared toward mothers who are struggling during pregnancy. Some of the stories are heartbreaking.
Trudgin
Join Date: Jul 2014
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Originally Posted by needtobehonest 
very ashamed that i am pregnant and struggling to get bk into recovery 
We stay sober, not I - reach out.
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Welcome!
I believe you really need to talk to your dr. This is no longer just about you. You have an unborn child you are responsible for. Please do the right thing for your baby.
I believe you really need to talk to your dr. This is no longer just about you. You have an unborn child you are responsible for. Please do the right thing for your baby.
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